“The ego mind both professes its desire for love and does everything possible to repel it, or if it gets here anyway, to sabotage it. That is why dealing with issues like control, anger, and neediness is the most important work in preparing ourselves for love.” ~ Marianne Williamson
“If you can learn to love yourself and all the flaws, you can love other people so much better. And that makes you so happy.” ~ Kristin Chenoweth
Everyone has one universal drive – love. We all want to be loved and to feel love. Our actions are motivated by this drive – either consciously or unconsciously.
The things we do that are good for us are a way to feel love and the things we do that are bad for us are our way of protecting us from our fear of losing love.
Where are you on this feeling loved – fear of losing love spectrum?
Take this 3-question quiz and find out.
Check all the answers below that apply.
#1 Questions
A. In the last 24 hours I have done something nice for myself.
B. In the past 24 hours I have judged someone. (Give yourself double points if you made sure to tell them about your judgement.)
C. In the past 24 hours I have done something nice for someone else without being asked.
#2 Questions
A. This morning I took time for myself – reading, journaling, meditating, praying.
B. This morning I looked in the mirror and had an uncomplimentary thought about some aspect of me.
C. This morning I complemented someone else.
#3 Questions
A. In the past 7 days I said No to something I didn’t want to do.
B. In the past 7 days I talked about something in my life I was displeased with or hated. (Give yourself double points if that something was some aspect of you instead of some situation you were in.)
C. In the past 7 days I did something on purpose to brighten someone else’s day.
How did you do? Let’s check and find out.
A Answers
The first questions in this quiz assess your level of self-care. This is intentional because until you score highly on self-care you can’t effectively care for others.
If you scored a zero:
Get thee to a spa immediately!!! Seriously, what is more important than you? I know sometimes life gets in the way, but that better be situational. So, if you have a sick kid at home or something like that you get a pass. Everyone else needs to really take stock of how you are putting yourself last.
If you scored 1-2:
Better with some room for improvement. Look at the one you didn’t check off. Where do you need to focus? Doing nice things for yourself or setting firmer boundaries?
If you scored a 3:
Awesome! Now that you have the basics down, how can you take your self-care to the next level? Remember, self-care isn’t selfish, it’s the only way to fill your own cup so you have something to share with others. So actually, it’s the exact opposite of selfishness.
B Answers
Ok these were designed to score the opposite of the others. These measure the energy of love you are radiating. If there isn’t an abundance of love in your life the first place I have clients look is their own energy level. Love is magnetic – it can’t come to you if you actively repel it.
If you scored a zero:
Great news! You understand that focusing on things you don’t like in your life attracts more of the same. What you resist persists.
If you scored 1-2:
Ok. So, you’re human. I get that. However, I’m sure you have slipped into these unconsciously. By becoming aware of the thoughts and words you use you become aware of how you craft the life you live. Consciousness isn’t a chore or a punishment, it’s a way of claiming your innate power as a creator of your own life.
If you scored 3 or more:
Girlfriend we need to talk! Have you ever heard the phrase, “You can’t get there from here?” Well, this is one of those times. You can’t attract the love your soul craves by running yourself or others down. It wants to come to you. It’s waiting patiently to be invited into your life. You just have to make room for it by moving out that negative baggage so it can move in.
C Answers
These questions assess your actions of love. Self-care is important, and changing your negative thoughts is imperative, however please don’t overlook an essential piece to the puzzle. To get what you want you must give what you want! You can’t do something nice for someone else and not feel good. You can’t smile at someone else and not feel happy yourself.
If you scored a zero:
Make today a new start. Decide on something nice to do for someone and do it immediately. The Universe loves action! Is there a thank you email you can send? Is there a checkout clerk at a store you can say something nice to? Is there a stranger who needs a hand? How about paying it forward at the drive-thru?
If you scored 1-2:
Good going. If you really want to crank it up, resolve to do one love act a day. Look for ways you can surprise and delight. Focus on people you know AND random strangers. Mix it up – I promise if you do this consistently you will see a change!
If you scored a 3:
Thank you for your service. You are actively making this world a better place. Keep up the good work and know that your positive energy and action is contributing to a global transformation of peace and love.
So, I have a confession to make. This quiz is a cute assessment of where you are right now, however, the truth is you can’t attract love, you can’t lose love, because you are love! It’s already who you are at the core.
You’ve just put a lot of junk over your essence of love because of past hurts and fear. Self-care, positive thoughts, and loving actions clear away the junk and allow you to resonate at the frequency of love that you truly are right here, right now.
If you didn’t crush it in any or all of these categories begin right now with a new start. Pick a category and focus on it for the next week. Try it for yourself and see if it doesn’t create a shift in your life. Let me know – I love to hear your success stories!!
by Heart Light Digital
