“Money has never made man happy, nor will it, there is nothing in its nature to produce happiness.” ~ Benjamin Franklin
“A little thought and a little kindness are often worth more than a great deal of money.” ~ John Ruskin
“Money is only a tool. It will take you wherever you wish, but it will not replace you as the driver.” ~ Ayn Rand
“Not he who has much is rich, but he who gives much.” ~ Erich Fromm
How would you feel if every time you walked up to someone they cringed? Or tensed up? Or maybe you overheard them saying bad things about you to others, like you are dirty, stingy, and smell bad. And they think your friends are stupid and they look down on them.
Do you think you’d go out of your way to hang out with people who felt that way about you? No! You’d run the other way as fast as you could. Of course you say “I’d never treat anyone that way”, yet if your name is Money then you get that treatment all the time. So while you might not treat another person that way openly, why do you do it to money?
Everything is energy – and we attract or repel by the energetic vibration we emanate. Imagine you are surrounded by a cloud of energetic vibration, like Pigpen’s dust cloud in the Peanuts cartoon strip. You have the power to switch that cloud from a positive, attracting vibration to a negative, repelling vibration at will. What makes it change is the thoughts you think and the words you speak. It can only reflect, it cannot operate individually.
Now remember everything is surrounded by a very same cloud. Everything has its own unique vibration, and is able to draw closer to you or repel away from you. And money is no different.
So to attract more money into your life you must make friends with it. You must align your vibration to an attracting resonance that money responds to. And to do so there are three steps to repair your friendship with money.
Acknowledge Money’s Purpose
“Money cannot buy peace of mind. It cannot heal ruptured relationships, or build meaning into a life that has none.” ~ Richard M. DeVos
You first must repair your idea of what money’s purpose is. Most think money is there to be gotten. That it is a necessary evil to be fought for and hoarded. Many people have a real love hate relationship to money because they misunderstand it. They believe they love the things it can do for them but hate feeling dependent on it so they simultaneously crave it and despise it.
Basically, not the foundation for a beautiful friendship! Let me help clear things up for you. Money’s purpose is to show appreciation. That’s so important I’m going to repeat it so please pay attention. Money’s purpose is to show appreciation. Sit with that for a minute and let it sink in. For most of you this is a radically new concept.
Ok so now you’re thinking I’m crazy, but allow me to explain. We constructed money to stand in for appreciation. If there were no money and you went into a store and saw a beautiful shirt that you wanted, what would be the exchange? You would pick up the shirt, go to the shopkeeper, and express appreciation for the gift. You’d say, “This is lovely, the workmanship is really beautiful, thank you so much!” This is because things we get when money doesn’t change hands we call gifts and we treat them in this manner.
But somehow money gunks up this process and we get off track. We take our eye off the gift aspect and focus on all the false layers we’ve put on money itself.
Acknowledge Money’s Gifts
“Let us not be satisfied with just giving money. Money is not enough, money can be got, but they need your hearts to love them. So, spread your love everywhere you go.” ~ Mother Teresa
We have overlaid many false expectations on money and they all take us away from its true purpose. We expect money to bring us happiness, to offer us security, and to up our self-esteem. The funny part is it can do all those things, but as a side benefit of its purpose, not as its purpose itself.
Money allows you to get back into the flow of appreciation. Its only purpose is to expand your reach. Without money you would only be able to impact a small circle of people, but now with a global economy you can touch people all over the world.
When you strip everything else way and just use money as appreciation and appreciate its ability for you to do so, then everything else you desire will flow to you.
Acknowledge Money’s Greater Good in Your Life
“Money is a needful and precious thing, and when well used, a noble thing, but I never want you to think it is the first or only prize to strive for. I’d rather see you poor men’s wives, if you were happy, beloved, contented, than queens on thrones, without self-respect and peace.” ~ Louisa May Alcott, Little Women
So how do you get back to basics with money and repair your friendship? You must begin by shifting your thoughts and words. This will feel clunky at first so be patient with yourself. You must monitor your first thoughts when money comes up. For example, when you look at a price tag, you get a bill, or someone asks you for a donation, do you tense up? Do you get a flash of irritation around spending money because then you’ll have less? Basically, do you become that person at the beginning of this article? That’s when you need to pivot and shift your energy vibration.
When the opportunity for money to flow out of your hands arises, relax and show appreciation. In our world, money has to flow out of your hands. You can’t get through the day without that happening. And you can do it any way you want, however one way will help money flow back in while the other will clog up that flow. So how you feel when money goes out impacts how it comes back to you.
So when you are given an opportunity, show appreciation. When you get your credit card bill go through it line by line and show appreciation for the thing you were able to purchase, or the experience you had. When the water bill comes due, pause and actively think of how much you appreciate having fresh, clean water at your fingertips. How delightful that shower is every morning, and how wonderful those city workers are who make that possible for you to experience.
In like manner, when money comes to you, pause and feel the appreciation it is showing you. It is in your hands because someone values what you do, what you contribute, or who you are. Take in that acknowledgment of value and thank the money for standing in as the proxy of appreciation.
“Wealth is the ability to fully experience life.” ~ Henry David Thoreau
March’s joy-full lesson is money is a vehicle for appreciation. When you use money in this way you will allow all the benefits you wanted money itself to bring you into your life. By interacting with money as a proxy you get into a vibrational alignment with it and free it up to open the floodgates of happiness you desire. It is my hope that you live a joyous, wealthy life.