“Clarity is the most important thing. I can compare clarity to pruning in gardening. You know, you need to be clear. If you are not clear, nothing is going to happen. You have to be clear. Then you have to be confident about your vision. And after that, you just have to put a lot of work in.” ~ Diane von Furstenberg
“That inner voice has both gentleness and clarity. So to get to authenticity, you really keep going down to the bone, to the honesty, and the inevitability of something.” ~ Meredith Monk
“Although our intellect always longs for clarity and certainty, our nature often finds uncertainty fascinating.” ~ Carl von Clausewitz
Confusion is heavy! OK we both know it doesn’t have any actual mass, but it feels oppressive nevertheless. It crowds your brain with a thick, dense fog, it sits on your shoulders like a set of iron chains and it jams up your stomach like a big ball of lead.
Wouldn’t it be great to get this 15-pound mental monkey off your back? Wouldn’t it be fantastic to experience the lightness of clarity instead? Imagine all the brilliant direction, ease, and purpose that would be immediately available to you!
Well you are in luck! Here is a simple 3-day process that will pull back the blackness of confusion and let the clear light of clarity shine in your life.
Day 1 – Weed Out Confusion from the Garden of Your Life
The first step towards clarity is to gather up all the debris that is choking out the beautiful things that are trying to grow in the garden of your life. If you’ve clogged your life with negative thoughts of fear, anger, sadness, and anxiety then peaceful, successful, connecting thoughts have no room.
Imagine you are a beautiful lamp and your life is a 1000-watt bulb. Over the years you have painted that bulb with a stroke of black ink with every negative, fearful or angry thought you’ve given intense attachment to. So your result is a simple cause and effect – you can’t shine brightly not because the lamp is broken you’ve just covered it over.
So here’s your Day 1 process for scraping off the blackness.
Spend a day with a notebook and some quiet. Write down all the things which anger you, cause you pain, fear, or anxiety. Write all the things you think you might lose if you made decisions to move your life ahead or negative belief systems you have about yourself, others in your life, or success.
Purge, Purge, Purge!
Purge yourself of all those thoughts that have taken hold and keep you small, confused, or afraid.
Once you have totally purged yourself get a large metal bowl and a lighter. Go to a safe place outside and burn your pages in the bowl. Do this carefully – if you have lots of pages burn them in small batches. Be mindful of your surroundings and the wind conditions.
The awesome power of transformation available to you by the use of fire is important, so do this step.
Before you begin your burn ceremony, create a prayer or affirmation that reinforces your process of letting go. Release these negative beliefs back to the light or turn them over to God. Whatever works for you, use that. This process is about really letting it all go once and for all so participate with that goal in mind.
This process is like weeding the garden of your life. Sometimes when weeding you only pull up the part of the weed that’s above the ground and with time it regrows. It is not a sign that you didn’t do it correctly the first time, just that you need to re-do it more deeply. So if in a few months things start springing back up in your mind and your life, then re-do this process and dig deeper into your fears, your anger and your negative belief systems. Weeding is an ongoing process, so keep up with this and the weeds will thin out and your life garden will flourish with abundant beauty.
Day 2 – Create Brightness by Sowing New Seed
Nature abhors a vacuum so now that you’ve weeded you must sow something new.
Here’s your Day 2 process for creating something new in your life.
Take up your pen and paper and start writing all the positive things you want in your life. If you need to prime the pump begin by writing the things you dreamt about when you were a kid. Do not filter yourself by what you think is possible, what you think you should want, or have a right to want. In fact, the more outrageous the better. Write about things from all aspects of your life – your relationships, family, career, money, everything! Again, no one is going to see this so go all out.
Once you have poured out all your dreams then again, gather up your bowl, papers, and lighter. This time you are doing a different type of releasing ceremony – this one is an offering. Create a prayer or affirmation that invites God, the Universe, or your Higher Power to become an active co-creator in your life. Release your dreams and offer them up through your burn ceremony. Then know they are received by your intentional act of transformation.
By sowing these seeds transformation begins, but does not show immediately. You cannot dig up the seeds you’ve planted to see if they are growing and expect to successfully produce the fruits of your labor. Your responsibility is three-fold after you sow your seeds – you feed, weed, and wait. There is no need for worry because the transformation must happen if you do your three steps. No one needs to help seeds bloom at the level of the seed – that is done from a different power then the one you have, so trust that part of the process is happening and only focus on your part.
Day 3 – Plug In Your Power Source to Feed Your Seeds
If you are a lamp and your light is the bulb, then gratitude is the plug that connects you to your power source. So this third step is the one that powers your transformation.
Here’s your Day 3 process for powering up your results.
On Day 3 commit to a practice of writing down at least 5 things you are grateful for each day. Make sure every day they are different things. They don’t have to be big or complex things.
Make this a fun game – wake up wondering what wonderful things are going to come into your life that you can capture for your gratitude list. It’s like a daily scavenger hunt!
This step is how you feed your seedlings. This is your contribution of essential nutrients to insure their growth.
By tapping into the power of gratitude you allow the things you want to have an access point to come into your life. You have created a fertile ground free of weeds so your dreams have the space to flower.
If you have trouble gathering up at least 5 things to be grateful for each day then create some. Do random acts of kindness and be grateful for the opportunity you’ve had to enhance someone’s day. Pay for the person behind you in the drive though line or compliment a stranger to brighten their day.
Whatever it is, have the courage and creativity to positively impact someone else. That will quickly jumpstart your gratitude list and before you know it the floodgates will open and your list will grow exponentially.
I want so many good things for you. The people who love you want good things for you. But the only thing that matters is if you want good things for yourself.
And the way you want them is by your actions. I’ve given you a framework to create a shift in your life. I’m also here to help out if you need more.
But you create your life through your focus, attention, and actions. You are already whole and complete, you just need to clear away anything that is blocking that from flowering in your life.