“The more you trust your intuition, the more empowered you become, the stronger you become, and the happier you become.” ~ Gisele Bundchen
“You have to leave the city of your comfort and go into the wilderness of your intuition. What you’ll discover will be wonderful. What you’ll discover is yourself.” ~ Alan Alda
One of the topics I’m most passionate about is how to live more intuitively. I teach my clients how to really get in touch with their own inner guidance so their lives can unfold more easily. But there is a threshold that you must crossover to reap this benefit. Until that point, relying on your intuition is a frustrating, uneasy process. So I wanted to give you some ways to create a friendship with your intuition so the two of you can have a much more fun, exciting relationship.
Here are five steps to strengthening the bonds between you and your inner voice.
Your intuition needs space. She’s like a shy doe that needs a quiet clearing before she will come out of the protection of the woods. Too often though you expect it to rush into an arena filled with shouting and chaos. I’m here to tell you, that’s not going to happen.
If you haven’t yet seen the animated Pixar movie, Inside Out then please watch it. It’s a really cute representation of how our emotions control out thoughts and actions. So imagine that in your head fear is running around, waving her hands in the air, screaming. And anger is stomping up and down, while panic is ricocheting off the walls. During all this cacophony, your intuition is the wallflower, pressed up against the wall with her eyes shut and her hands over her ears. Needless to say, this is not when you will get the most out of her.
The second mistake I see my clients do is to create a nice quiet spot for their intuition to step into and then they immediately start barraging her with questions. They pounce on her with what if’s, and incessant questions about outcomes and assurances. So it’s nice you’ve coaxed her out, but unfortunately she’s on the floor in the fetal position with her eyes closed and her hands over her ears. Probably not the outcome you were hoping for.
I know the first two steps are hard. It feels like controlling a kindergarten class hyped up on Mountain Dew. But you must corral everyone else into their seats and calmly open the floor to your intuition. It’s only then can you begin to hear her voice. And you must really listen because at first you won’t really recognize her unique voice. Have you ever watched a TV show and the bad guy uses that machine that disguises his voice? That’s what happens when you hear your intuition through your filters. To make sure you hear the clear, true voice of your intuition you must remove your filters of judgment and expectation you have about a situation. Without doing this the distorted voice you listen to will lead you in the wrong direction and you’ll believe your intuition is not on your side.
Ok – you’ve quieted all the voices of panic and fear, you’ve drawn your intuition out and she’s spoken to you. What do you do next? You dismiss her of course. I’ve seen it happen time and again. You ask for a sign. You get a hunch and then you poo-poo it with logic and rationality. You’re told to go to a certain place and immediately decide that you don’t have time, or it’s further away so you’ll go somewhere closer, or any other logical thing that pops up. And since your logic makes perfect sense you follow it. However, the point you’re missing is you asked for magic. You asked for synchronicity. You asked for the unseen universe to conspire upon your behalf. Your intuition tried to deliver it to you, except you allowed logic to laugh it out of the room.
Trust is an action verb. It demands you act on your hunches. It wants you to get going when you get a green light. Start small if it frightens you. Ask for hunches on little things and then follow them. Start building a track record. All good friendships are built on reciprocity. When your intuition gives you something give back by honoring her gift and following through. This way when something big comes around the two of you are old friends and know you can count on one another to see yourselves through this issue.
These steps are simple but not easy. I’m here for your questions and if you need any additional help to strengthen your intuition. If your hunch is telling you to reach out, then please do it. Call me at 336-540-0088, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org, or leave a comment below.