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The Days Are Long But The Years Are Short

IMG_2501As my son crossed the stage to receive his diploma I was reminded of this very true adage about parenting: some of the days really can be long but all of the years are most certainly short!

It is so important to keep this perspective. It’s so easy to slip into the frustrations of today or to overlook the gift each year of childhood brings.

Remember when they were learning to walk? Or the first time they experienced snow? Remember potty training? Or that art project they so proudly brought home for Mother’s Day? How about that year of learning to drive? That was a tricky time.

But how did this day arrive so quickly – the day my son is done with high school, and a few short weeks away from leaving for college?

We have traveled together from a baby, to a boy, to a teenager and now he’s a man. I wouldn’t trade one minute of the journey for anything – the good, the bad and the ugly are all precious to me because it has brought us here, together.

Here is a great video telling one woman’s discovery of this principle. What’s your perspective? Does this resonate with you?

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The Power of Signs

hawkI am a big believer in signs. Whenever I have something on my mind or I need to make a decision, I know there will be signs to help me. But the trick is knowing what to look for and then knowing what to do once you find them.

The thing about signs is they can come from anywhere. They can be small and subtle or very dramatic! It can be as simple as a song on the radio, a comment from a friend or an event that you witness.

Recently I was having an interaction with my 14 year old son. I wanted him to use his time over the long MLK weekend one way and he had a totally different agenda. He had some homework that was due on Tuesday and I wanted him to get it done early on and then have the rest of the weekend free. He wanted to plan out his whole time, decide how much time he needed to do the assignments and then work them in during blocks of time when there was no football on TV and/or no other friends to hang out with.

Needless to say, our different ideas about how he should spend his time created some very charged interactions. So early on in the weekend I was thinking about our relationship and wondering if my approach of wanting to micro-manage him was in fact the correct choice. It made me feel better but was it really the correct thing for him?

So I put it out to the Universe to help me understand which way to go with this situation and that I needed a sign to give me clarity. Not too long after that I did what I usally do when I need clarity and went for a walk. As I was walking through some wooded areas in my neighborhood I spotted a hawk at the top of a very tall tree. I noticed the hawk and went on, thinking nothing about it.

About 30 minutes later I looked up from my desk and saw that the hawk was right outside my back door, perched on my deck railing. There sat this big, beautiful bird right outside my window just looking at me. Once it had my attention it jumped down to the ground and allowed me to get within a few feet from it and then it soared away. It didn’t even hardly flap its powerful wings. It just glided away almost effortlessly.

Well, I was pretty sure that was the sign I’d asked for since I have never in my life seen a hawk up close and personal. And of course it did come right up to my back door just so I wouldn’t miss that the sign was meant for me.

So the question became, now what? What does this all mean for my dilemma? Well, the first thing I did was go to my signs book and look up the meaning of a hawk. Hawks are messengers, symbolizing the ability to take a big picture view. So, I had to ask myself, I am really serving us both with my decision to micro-manage my son’s time? If I take a big picture view what would that look like in this situation? If I step back and allow him the freedom to manage his own time, what’s the worst that could happen?

This self-reflection helped me take a different, more empowering tact for both of us. I gave him the list of what needed to be accomplished, the deadline it all had to be done by and the consequences of not meeting the deadline. Beyond that I told him he had complete control over how he spent his time and that I trusted in his success.

He rose to the occasion and had everything completed with 2 hours to spare. He worked out what he needed to do and what he wanted to do and figured out how to balance the two. My new stance took the pressure off me because I was using my mental energy to keep him on task and then when we were together I was directing his activities instead of enjoying his company.

Thanks to my hawk friend I know we both learned some valuable lessons. My son learned that I am able to trust him to be responsible and I learned that I need to be watchful for more opportunities that allow him to spread his wings and soar.

So look for signs in your life. They are there to help you find your way. The Universe is always lining everything up in your favor, you just need to be open to the messages.

Blessings,
Donna

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Personal Transition Coaching: Have You Faced These Obstacles?

Personal Transition Coaching: Have You Faced These Obstacles?

Transition Tips Women who are in transition are particularly vulnerable to discouragement and frustration. This can often lead to depression and hopelessness. Change upsets your equilibrium, and if that’s the case in your life then you’ll benefit from Personal Transition Coaching.

Here are some issues that I’ve helped others through. Maybe there is something here that speaks to you.

Weight Loss – Aside from the obvious health benefits, the transition of weight loss can also increase your self esteem. Simply the joy of being able to climb a flight of stairs without becoming winded or getting into smaller size jeans can bring positivity into your life.

 

You can easily feel better about yourself when you achieve your weight loss goals. If you’ve tried lots of ways to lose weight then there is something more to it than just what you eat. Once patterns and blocks have become established in your subconscious, then you need more than just a diet. You need some Energy Therapy Healing to free your mind so your body can follow.

 

Relocation – Moving to a new area is difficult, especially if you are moving away from your family and friends into a completely new area. This type of transition usually leads to loneliness and even depression as women feel that their support systems are ripped away. Whether you are moving for your own job, your husband’s job, or for some other reason, you need support to reestablish your new life.

Career Change – Changing jobs can be pretty scary. This can be a really bumpy time – whether you’re changing companies, pursuing a completely different career, facing unemployment or going into business for yourself. Reach out and get help with adjusting your perspective to open up the possibilities that lie ahead for you.

Divorce or Death – Relationship changes can rock you to the core. Divorce or death of a spouse can send otherwise strong, balanced women reeling. You may feel helpless or disoriented. But there is still joy to be found in your daily life, you just might need some help uncovering it after such a traumatic life event.

New Baby, Teenagers or Empty Nest – It seems that children keep us constantly in a state of transition! There are so many layers of stressors that come with raising children. Everyone at some point needs help to navigate those waters. Think of my Personal Transition Coaching as a lighthouse that keeps you off the rocks that sink your family’s ship.

Change is what makes life exciting and interesting, but to some people, change is viewed as a negative event instead of a chance for personal growth. Transitioning from one chapter of your life to another can be traumatic and difficult, but it doesn’t have to be. Just reach out for some help – there is no bonus award for doing it all alone.

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Here’s what other’s are saying about Personal Transition:

WhatsNext.com Launches For Boomers In Professional And Personal Transition

Career Change & Life Balance is a signature free guide that helps readers identify the best advice and tools for midlife career transition. The in-depth, 36-page downloadable guide features advice from top experts […]

Cultural Ecology Inside Out: Personal to Planetary Transition

Navigating the great transition presents new opportunities and challenges on a deeply personal as well as societal level. We are effectively redefining and reinventing our culture from the inside out.

Balance is the key 

Personal Transition is attaining and maintaining a healthy body as well as a healthy mind.

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