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The Paradox of Embracing Paradox

dalai-lama-man“How wonderful that we have met with a paradox. Now we have some hope of making progress.” ~ Niels Bohr

“You are doomed to make choices. This is life’s greatest paradox.” ~ Wayne Dyer

The paradox of embracing paradox is it’s counter intuitive. I can hear you say, “Duh. Otherwise there wouldn’t be any paradox. “ Yes I get that but what does it mean for you? Isn’t that a more interesting topic?

Actually I am going to blend the two topics together to create clarity from this confusion. And I’m going to use limits to show how you can be free – that’s where the paradoxical thinking comes in.

You Can’t See What You Don’t Look For

“Every man takes the limits of his own field of vision for the limits of the world.” ~ Arthur Schopenhauer

Imagine Shakespeare was correct and all the world is indeed a stage and you are merely a player. Thus your life is actually playing out in 2 different dimensions – the one you see as your life and the background you don’t see. Much like when you watch a movie you see the action but you don’t see the sets, cameramen, microphones, etc. that are all “off stage”.

So here’s the big idea of this article:

The things you struggle against in your life are put there by the workers “off stage” to help you the most. By embracing this paradox you transmute what you think limits you into what sets you free.

So let’s take two definite aspects of your life that you see as limitations and I’ll pull back the curtain so you can peek backstage to see what’s really going on. For this example we will use time and space.

Embracing Limits Transforms Them into Springboards

“Once we accept our limits, we go beyond them.” ~ Albert Einstein

Time and space are partners in your freedom – they seem like limitations but are actually the only way you can you can achieve limitlessness.

Take this moment in your life – this exact time and space you are in, as you are reading these words pause for a minute and think of the top 5 things that you are unhappy with in your life. Fill them in the list below.

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So look over this list. How many of them are things that happened in the past? How many are things you worry about happening in the future? Most importantly, how many of these things on this list are happening right now – this very instant in time in your exact space. Hint: If the answer is zero then all these things belong either to the past or the future.

Accepting What Is Unlocks the Door of Change

“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” ~ Carl Rogers

We have a tendency to create unhappiness in our right now by dragging forward our past hurts or pulling in our fears about our future. So that’s how time and space seem to limit us. They both create the illusion of limiting the manifestation of what we want so we resist and push against them. How many times have you said, there’s never enough time, time has slipped away from me, or I don’t have time. Or maybe you’ve said, I wish I made different choices so I could be somewhere else right now, or I don’t like where I am, or why doesn’t my life look like I want it to?

It feels like we have so many dreams; the mountain house, the exotic vacation to a luxury spa on a tropical island, that red convertible, a better house, job, family or even a life lived in a different fashion, yet because of the restrictions of time and space we feel constrained from attaining what we really want.

When the truth is time and space give you the ultimate freedom to experience happiness in a perpetual NOW.

Big Paradox Alert

“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” ~ Wayne Dyer

Time and space exist so you can’t get everything you want all at once. What good would that be? I have a friend who says, “You can’t have everything, where would you put it?” And literally that’s true. If your wishes manifested the instant you had them you’d be so crowded you’d be trapped. Think hoarder on steroids.

Their purpose is to give us the opportunity to really enjoy the experience we are having to its fullest. So by embracing time and space you are liberating yourself to fully enjoy right now, which is true freedom.

We spend lots of time acting like our life is not IT and that one day we will arrive at IT and then things will get good. But that’s the exact thinking that is creating your unhappiness. Get happy by getting that THIS IS IT. Loving what is right now opens up the space to actually create more of what you want. Struggling against THIS IS IT imprisons your creativity so only through embracing THIS AS IT can you experience the freedom creativity offers.

Now is the Only Place You Can Experience Happiness

“One cannot collect all the beautiful shells on the beach.” ~Anne Morrow Lindbergh

Literally you cannot collect all the shells on the beach and you wouldn’t want to. What good would the beach be if it was stripped clean of its gifts? The purpose of the beach is to enjoy being there while you are there. Don’t miss its magic by bemoaning the fact that you can’t collect all the shells or by thinking about how little time you have there. This thinking takes you away from the happiness that is always present in your present.

Paradoxes are easy to miss because we are used to looking at the reality we see instead of looking for the reality that’s available to us. For example, you think your life has external constraints when those constraints are wholly created by your point of view. Once you change perspectives then you open up to new possibilities that were not available to you before. So life’s paradox is you holding all the power while thinking your life is limited.

Once you shift views then you peek past the paradox and catch sight of the magical mysteries that are available for you. Come with me down this enchanted rabbit hole – don’t worry I’ll hold your hand – and experience the freedom that awaits you.

 

 

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Which of These Would You Choose?

I need your help. Autumn is here. In the Chinese Five element System of Healing Autumn is Lung/Large Intestines Energy. This means it is time to let go of grief and take in life fully.

In addition to my private practice, I have been asked to teach classes.

So, I would love your input on which of the following classes appeal to you, which style of class you like and what other topics you would love to see on the list.

Here is a list of topics I am considering:

Overcoming Your Personal Resistance

Ways to overcome those things that pop up in front of you and keep you from doing the things you want to do.

Daily Practices That Boost Your Future Well-Being

Daily things you can do that deposit health, happiness and well-being into your future bank.

Qigong Movements & Seated Meditation

The ancient Chinese modality of Qigong is designed to cultivate your wellness and vitality (Qi – Life Force Energy) through both movement and seated meditations.

Creating & Interpreting Your Vision Board

How to create a vision board that moves you forward, and how to interpret the messages your subconscious is revealing about you through your vision board.

Handling Holiday Stress

How to sail through the holidays with a smile.

What other topics interest you??

Also, would you rather in person classes or tele-seminars?

Are you looking for a 90 minute class, ½ day class or all day class?

Please leave me your feedback in the comments section, or feel free to email me @ donna[at]donnaburick.com or call me at 336-540-0088.

Thanks so much for helping out – I really appreciate your time.

Blessings,

Donna

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Your Wish is Your Command: How to Uncork the Genie in the Bottle

If a Genie suddenly appeared and asked you, “What is it that you really want?” would you be able to answer? Really answer, not just with the list of things you always have at the ready – bigger house, new car, more money, etc. etc. – but the feelings and state of mind that you think these things will bring you if you somehow could possess them.

Maybe you do have a clear vision of what you really want; like a chronic pain you want to release. Or perhaps when faced with that question you only have a vague sense that there is something you want, but you just can’t bring it into clear focus.

What if that Genie really exists and it lives in your energy field that is the “Higher You”? Wouldn’t you love to be able to communicate with it? Well, the answers you seek are closer than you think.

Here is a fun way to “channel” your inner guidance:

  1. Set aside 30-60 minutes of quiet time. Bring a notebook and a pen.
  2. Write on the top of the paper your question. For example, “What is it I really want at this time in my life?”
  3. Close your eyes and go inward for a few minutes. When you feel ready open your eyes and begin writing. If nothing comes flowing out immediately then begin writing by rephrasing the question. For example, “I want at this point in my life…”
  4. Just write whatever comes – do not edit. Also know that it will feel made up at first – you are not “faking” it – that’s just how it feels until you move into place of more trust. Consider the information “imagined” instead of “faked” – it’s much more playful that way!
  5. Keep asking additional questions that stem from the first one. Questions like, “What’s my first step in making that happen” or “Why do I want that right now” or “Who do I need to ask for help with this”.
  6. Go until you run out of steam and then look over what you’ve written.

This exercise is a great way to tap into the guidance that is always with you. That’s what’s so great about Energy Therapy – it allows us to get guidance from your “Higher Self” so you are able to move forward.

As Summer becomes Fall and the energy shifts, it is time to re-focus on your questions. And as always I am here, ready to help you ask, answer and manifest your heart’s desire.

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Lose 10 Pounds of Emotional Baggage Fast

Life Coaching with Energy Therapy Breaks Your Past Chains

Would you like to feel 10 pounds lighter? Do you want a quick, easy way to stop carrying around all that past baggage that has built up in your life?

If so then here’s your answer.

By fusing Energy Therapy modalities with Life Coaching techniques a reaction is created that clears away past subconscious programing and baggage so you can move forward with ease.

We are all a product of our past experiences, thoughts and actions. But if you are looking to improve your outcomes then Life Coaching with Energy Therapy is your best bet.

Life Coaching is very different than regular talk therapy because it is focused on where you are and where you want to go rather than on past events. But, what if past events are affecting where you are and where you want to go? That’s why adding Energy Therapy is the answer.

Life Coaching boosted with Energy Therapy modalities can access your subconscious blocks and move aside those things that are holding you back. The real gift is these are things that you can not access in regular conscious therapy or coaching.

So if you’ve ever felt like you’ve hashed and rehashed your past and yet you still have not moved forward to the extent that you’d like then this is your answer.

A good analogy of how your subconscious mind works is the studies done on babies and the visual cliff. Babies who are just crawling are placed on a plexiglass table where one side looks shallow and the other seems to drop off. The parent is on the “deep” side coaxing the baby across.

Psychologists have found out two very important things from this test.

One, that the expressions of the trusted parent directly affects the babies performance. If the parent shows a fear face as the baby starts toward the deep end the baby stops crawling. In like manner, if the parent is smiling and nodding yes, the baby scampers across.

Secondly, psychologists have found that babies who are first crawling do not seem to show an inherent fear of the deep side because they have very little experience with falling. However, babies a few months older, and who have experienced falling, have a much stronger avoidance reaction to the deep end, even when their parent is coaxing them to cross.

This is how your subconscious mind develops. There are negative events that have happened to you that have encoded in your subconscious. These patterns or messages run in your subconscious background in an effort to protect you from harm.

Perhaps they served you when they were formed, but they are no longer the patterns you want running twenty years later. Energy Therapy enables us to go in and turn off those messages and re-encode new messages that are more productive.

So, if you’ve ever felt like that you bump in to an invisible wall when you try to move forward, see what a powerful difference Life Coaching infused with Energy Therapy can do for you.

Here are some of my Life Coaching success stories from other clients. You can also get more information about the power of Energy Therapy at my Life Coaching website.

 

Here are two videos on the Visual Cliff experiment:

 

Here is some additonal information for you:

What is BodyTalk?

What is Complementary or Alternative Medicine?

How Do We Heal Past Emotional Experiences?

Energy Healing

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Be Kind: Wisdom From A Child

I had a very nice interaction with a bank customer service representative yesterday. She really went out of her way to help me solve a problem I was having and I walked away really feeling taken care of. So because of that I was focused on kindness and ways we can be kind to one another and I came across this video.

It’s a really cute video from this little girl giving advice about being kind. I thought you might like it. Please leave a comment and let me know what you think.

Kindness can not be overrated. The kinder you are to others the more you blossom. It’s as essential as rain is to a flower.

 

Here’s the video – enjoy!

 

httpv://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mxm5ol6GE48

 

Here are some other articles on kindness from the web:

USA Today’s Kindness Stories

Kindness Happens

A Week of Kindness Blog

One Million Moments of Kindness

Generate Kindness

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How to Approach Your Work/Life Situations with B.A.L.A.N.C.E.

Your work/life situation is totally unique but one thing that’s universal is the fact that they often get out of balance. Here is a simple 7 step B.A.L.A.N.C.E. plan for gaining the work/life balance you’re looking for.

1. B – Begin. By deciding to self reflect and observe your life you open up the possibilities for change.

2. A – Asses where you are right now. Really look at where your time and energy goes and asses the priorities you have instituted. Make a note of which actions and priorities make you feel better and which make you feel worse. Also, note which ones are missing.

3. L- Love what is. Many people can not move forward because they are too stuck in judging their situation. They spend all their energy on struggling with it instead of accepting where they are right now and channeling their energy into making new choices.

4. A – Activate new patterns. Once you’ve looked over your activities and priorities and have stopped resisting where you are right now then you have the perfect opportunity to start some new patterns. Maybe you now have a clear idea what you want to say no to. Maybe you are ready to substitute a good feeling activity for one that has been draining you.

5. N – Notice your thoughts. Much of what throws us off balance is mental. Stress is like mud wrestling – there is no way to participate in it and come out clean. Negative thought patterns like worry, overwhelm, anxiety and judgments drain you of the peace and balance you are looking for. These negative thoughts are like stacks of junk mail that build up until they spill over and cover up the good thoughts that make us feel light, happy, and rejuvenated.

6. C – Course correct. As you begin new activities and new thought patterns you will naturally get “off course”. There are only two things you need to do to solve this: fix upon a destination and gently course correct as you go along. Use your emotions as guides to tell you when you are beginning to get off course and then gently correct until you are back into a more positive feeling place.

7. E – Enjoy. You’ve been told a thousand times that life is a journey, not a destination so just enjoy yourself along the way. Know you are going to get off course and that life will bring you unforeseeable detours, but make a conscious choice to enjoy the scenery along the way and then even the time you spend “lost” will be pleasurable.

Your work/life balancing act is unique to your situation. If you would like to create a specialized plan that incorporates a holistic approach please consider getting the assistance of a Whole Life Coach to speed up your progress.

Here are some other articles on this general topic you might like:

Here are some additional articles for you:

  • Energy Therapy Healing:Does It Have Physical Benefits … – Few people think about it, but energy is everywhere. At all times energy is a part of us and is flowing all around us. Everything we see including our own bodies and the earth itself is full of energy.
  • Wholelife Coaching: Lifestyle Entrepreneur Coaching – Whatever you are good at, whatever you enjoy, whatever you have an avid interest in, whatever you love therein lies your talent your Calling. If you are ready to enjoy the freedom of working for yourself, consider what it takes to succeed. It takes vision, planning and follow through, assessing risk and reality, developing relationships, and most importantly it’s a process that takes focus over time.
  • Whole Life Coaching – Margie Gordillo – Something in you wants to step up bigger. Whatever the leap is the only fall is in the choice not to climb.
  • Life Coaching For Your Whole Life — My Whole Life – Alignment : Live your life with integrity; honor your purpose, values, and beliefs. Balance : Create personalized strategies to balance your life and focus on what you define as important. Clarity :  Define success on your own terms.
  • Good Life Coaching | Sharon Good | Career, Life Purpose … – “Life is the only art that we are required to practice without preparation. Whole Life Coaching addresses your life in a holistic way, in which each part affects the whole. T he program begins with a one-and-one-quarter-hour Discovery session, in which we explore and assess your level of satisfaction with each of these areas.
  • Whole Life Coaching that creates a standard of Excellence at Work … – Your employees are the heart of your organization. When employees have personal problems making them unable to focus and be effective in their work. When there is a mutual lack of appreciation and communication between middle management and employees.
  • Life Coaching, Whole Life Coaching By Liza Patchen Short … – If I try to be like you,
    who will be me. provides life coaching as a whole life coach, business coach, and as a life coach for people and families whose lives have been afflicted by cancer. Whole Life Coaching helps move you toward your goals by providing focus, accountability and support.
  • Stephanie Yost Mentzell :: The Whole Life Coach – Put your ear down next to your soul and listen hard. Connect you, unselfishly, to your unique expression in life. Give you the tools to wake up each day excited about the life you have created.
  • Spirituality, Inc. – We will send you an email with instructions on how to continue. … who “applies whole life-coaching techniques to her work with people and with businesses. …
  • Whole Life Coaching – Your Number 1 Priority For Weight Loss … – I have put several programs on this site that have helped me create this online business. Have a look at the product and link pages. You may just find the items that will get your site up and running.
  • Life Pro Coaching » Are You Living La Vida Healthy? – Especially those of you who were so diligently tapping away negative emotions in relationship matters, in matters of business and growth, in matters of pain and dealing with OCD, in many other matters such as weight loss and emotional eating, as well as feeling like you’re blocked on all levels. process and dealt with lots of hidden layers of energetic blockages. I know you have made real progress, and that’s commendable.
  • Whole Life Coaching How to Finally Get What You Want | Engage Today – Whole Life Coaching might be a new term to you but the concept is 4000 years old. It’s a way of looking at your life in a holistic manner.
  • Managing Change in Your Life – The only constant in life is change, how many time have you heard that? No longer do we live in a predictable society; just look at recent world events from a global perspective and you’ll know this to be true. …
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Do You Want to Harness Spring’s Powerful Energy for Your Life?

Spring Transformation

Spring Transformation by Joan Compton

One of the main gifts of Spring is it causes us to be hyper aware of our surroundings. Our senses have been somewhat dormant throughout the Winter and then Spring bursts forth with vibrant colors, fragrances, new life and light.

This hyper awareness is a gift because it brings the contrasts of our life into sharp focus. For example, as new flowers begin to bloom in your flower bed you can not notice them without also noticing the weeding that needs to be done and the fact that the bed needs more mulch.

Spring is about Liver Energy, which is all about planning, organizing and carrying out. However, Spring is so powerful it is easy to get overwhelmed with the sensory overload and have your Liver Energy flip into its pathological state of anger, anxiety and stuckness.

How you take advantage of the gifts of Spring is up to you. If you’ve had projects or ideas that you’ve been avoiding now is the time to harness and channel the abundant energy the Universe is supplying you toward getting going forward in your life.

One of the things I suggest to clients is to consciously focus on one thing at a time to minimize overwhelm. For example, as you are outside enjoying the beauty that surrounds you, focus only on the color green. See how many different shades of green you can discern. Notice the different vibrations each shade emanates and how they each make you feel.

Your situation is as totally unique as a field of wildflowers. Whatever tasks or decisions you want to harness the creative powers of Spring for need a specialized plan. Right now is the time to co-create your personal Spring Intention, so give me a call.

You can experience the exhilarating power of new growth as it runs through your life’s field. Setting up your Spring Intention is the quickest way to become in sync with the electric energy flowing through the Universe right now and be able to channel it into your own unique purpose.

Here are some other articles which deal with healing and change:

Please let me know your thoughts on this topic. Please post a comment and continue this discussion. I’d love to hear your thoughts!

Blessings,

Donna

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Don’t Fight Personal Transition

Major changes in life are neither good nor bad; they are simply the door to a personal transition.

These are not changes to cope with, but rather opportunities masked as change.

If you fight a personal transition, worry about it or bemoan it, you’ll miss the renewed life it brings.

If you’re unable to work creatively with life’s changes, you find yourself stuck with one foot in the past and dreading the future. This drains you of energy and creates emotional or physical distress.

Clearing away the past and moving on requires you to be aware of your inner fears and how to use the opportunities that lie ahead.

Notice what is making you so uncomfortable about the change you are facing and face it head on.

Change is inevitable, but struggle is optional.

Here are some other blog posts on similar topics:

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