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The 3-Question Happiness Quiz

“The talent for being happy is appreciating and liking what you have, instead of what you don’t have.” ~ Woody Allen

“Don’t Make Assumptions. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.” ~ Miguel Angel Ruiz

Many people say they are seeking answers but that’s like looking for love in all the wrong places. The power lies in the question. Answers can only be a reflection of the question you ask – much like the relationship of the moon to the sun. But the question has the energy to create space, connections and choice all of which are the stepping-stones to your happy place.

There are three types of questions that have the power to change your life. These power questions fall into 3 categories: The Perspective Shifter, The Clarifier and the Totally Absurd.

Here is a quick quiz to demonstrate how these questions can change everything for you.

The Perspective Shifter

This type of question is used when you are in a negative situation and you are looking for a quick shift. This question has the power of transformation by taking a “bad” situation and changing it into a happiness multiplier for you.

Quiz Question:

You have just been given a less that stellar job performance review.  Which of these questions are most like your inner dialogue:

  1. Why is it I always take the blame for everything? If I had only gotten my Masters Degree then I wouldn’t be in this stupid job. Man, I really blew it.
  2. My boss is such a jerk. He is totally unrealistic if he thinks I’m going to work harder when he treats us all like crap. Plus the pay stinks – he’s lucky I show up at all.
  3. What part of this feedback can I use to improve myself? What shifts do I need to put into place so I can expand my potential?

If you circled #1, you are a self-blamer.  If you circled #2 you are an other-blamer. Either way blame is like cement to misery. Blaming questions don’t create the space for growth or change but they can be very alluring because they are delicious to talk about to your friends and family. It feels really good when you can whip up a chorus of support from others. However you just continue to get more of the same old stress and misery.

If you circled #3 then you’ve asked some perspective shifting questions. These questions open up the space for growth, create a connection between the information you received and a positive outcome for you while creating the energy of choice and freedom. These questions lead you to new outcomes by inspiring action instead of complaints.

The Clarifier

These questions offer you the opportunity to clarify what outcomes you want rather than keeping your focus on what’s going wrong in your life.

Quiz Question:

You are on your way to work and you are totally frazzled. Your morning was another hectic mess. The kids were fighting at the breakfast table, your spouse forgot to make their lunches even though you asked 3 times and you are already exhausted and the day has just begun. Which of these is most like your inner dialogue?

  1. Why does this always happen to me? My life is miserable! When did I let it get so bad?
  2. For just one day can’t I have a smooth, peaceful start to the day? Is it really too much to ask? If they loved me they would act differently!
  3. What is it I really want? What would be more fun than the morning I just had? What can I do to move in that direction?

Again, #1 & #2 are blaming questions. They keep you laser focused on your problems until that’s all you can see. And from that point you can only create more of the same.

However, #3 is a clarifying question. It asks your conscious & subconscious mind to create something new. By opening up the space of looking toward what you’d like and creating a clear vision of it, you give yourself the connections needed to make new choices.


The Totally Absurd

This type of question is so different I will discuss its merits after you answer the quiz question.

Quiz Question:

You co-worker has just gotten something you think you want. Fill in the blank with a new job, gotten engaged, become pregnant, gotten divorced, lost weight or whatever you think is something that will make you happier than you are right now. Which of these is most like your inner dialogue?

  1. Why can’t I ever be happy? I never catch a break. My life is the pits!
  2. Great – like she needed that – her life is already a bed of roses. She’s got it so easy. I wish I had her life.
  3. Do you expect a toddler to be able to do high-level calculus?

Ok – so this was a bit of a trick but hear me out. Of course by now you see that questions #1 & #2 are blaming questions and they only serve to keep you in that whirlpool of stress, misery and unhappiness.

But what about #3? The totally absurd question is one used by professionals to jolt you out of a rut. We often get so ingrained in our stories we need something to dynamite us out of our groove. So, the answer to question #3 is probably not, but on occasion it could happen but would you really want it if it did?

So when we are comparing ourselves to someone else we never fully know the whole truth so the outcome is off-target. Our view of their life in comparison to ours is like expecting a toddler to do high-level calculus – the problem is not the toddler but with our expectation.

Of course a toddler can’t do calculus – but if we expect it we are the ones that are going to be disappointed over & over again. And, if we point to the one in a thousand who can actually pull off that feat as reinforcement then we are digging an even deeper hole.

Comparing your life to someone else’s always leads to disappointment because you only see the façade – you can never really know what is really going on so you are chasing an illusion. But if you hold your life up to someone who is in the one in a thousand category then you are going to be really disappointed – but ask yourself, would you want to be in that category?

Have you really thought through all the stressors of being famous, a genius, or whatever you think someone else has that you don’t? The trick to being happy is to be happy with what you have so you can create more things to be happy about.

The old adage garbage in garbage out is especially true when discussing the questions you ask yourself. You cannot get life-affirming, happiness producing answers from blaming and complaining questions.

So please go through your day asking yourself, “What would be more fun that this?” or “What would be the best outcome of this situation?” Play with asking yourself different questions and see what amazing answers pop into your life.


What are the questions that shift your perspective? Please let me know!



Here’s a funny happiness video showing how the magic of the unexpected can change everything!

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VFT: The Secret Sauce of Manifesting

“Don’t let anything stand in the way of you claiming and manifesting the life that you choose rather than the life you have by default.” ~ Joy Page

“By believing passionately in something that still does not exist, we create it. The non-existent is whatever we have not sufficiently desired.” ~ Nikos Kazantzakis

A few years ago the movie The Secret was all the rage. It was a wonderfully done movie about manifesting your heart’s desires. I think the movie is visually stunning and it does a very good job of giving an overview to the manifesting process, but it does leave out some essentials. So I’m going to let you in on the secrets behind The Secret.

Manifesting is like baking a delicate soufflé; it has very few ingredients but they need to be handled properly or you get a flat mess.

As The Secret tells you the 3 main ingredients to manifesting are to visualize what you want, hold that vision and then expect it to show up. Well, I’ve broken them down a little deeper for you to give you the ingredients in the secret sauce. My three step process is to visualize, feel and trust; but with a twist!

Secret # 1: Visualization

All the literature talks about visualizing what you want in order to manifest it, right? Well if that was all there was to it you’d have everything you ever wanted. So I’m going to ask you, “How’s it going for you?” Probably not good if you’re like most people. That’s because you don’t know the inside secret to successfully visualizing your desires. Here it is:

You must visualize from your desire not toward your desire.

This little tweak makes a 100% difference! Here’s how it works. For example, maybe you want a new car. Visualizing toward it would look like you seeing yourself in the car of your dreams. But if you notice, there is a disconnect there. By you seeing yourself doing something you are the observer, not the actor. So to visualize from your desire means to visualize from a vantage point of inside the action. So back to the new car scenario, you would pick a visual that would signify that you have the car of your dreams. Maybe choose a scene where you are pulling up in front of your home in the car and your neighbor notices you and says, “Hey, is that your new car?” and you reply, “It sure is, I just got it.” Encapsulate this scene in your mind and play it over and over again. From this vantage point you are inside the action, not merely a bystander.

Secret #2: Feel It

The next essential step is to feel what you would feel as if it has happened. So in the above scenario, when you run that scene in your mind then also feel the feelings that accompany it. Feel how happy you are driving the car into your driveway. Feel the pride when you show it to your neighbor. Feel the leather seat and smell the new car smell. Immerse yourself in a sensory bath of feelings. Your amplitude of feelings is in direct correlation to how quickly and clearly your manifestation will come into being. Thoughts are suggestions, but your feelings are the commands that your subconscious mind responds to.

Secret #3: Trust It

Once you have set up your scene that represents an action that takes place after your manifestation has come to pass, and overlaid it with your intense feelings, then you must act as if it is so. This layer of trust is needed to seal the deal. This is the hardest step because you must ignore your senses and rely on your imagined state. We are all very ingrained to gauge reality by our senses. If we can’t see, feel or touch something then it must not be there, right? Well, remember your subconscious does not know if you are actually seeing something or imagining it. It is shrouded from your external senses and can only process the information you feed it. So if you set up your visualization, feel your feelings and then run around noticing how you don’t have that car yet, your subconscious can’t help but get derailed. Ignore what is and trust what must be around the corner. By keeping your sights on what you want, instead of what you have, you will move from what you have to what you want. It’s like the old adage in Driver’s Ed – the car will go where you are looking, which is why we can’t fixate on anything while driving.

This VFT technique is the most effective way to use your manifestation powers. Pick something small and make these important changes and measure your results. Drop me an email or post on my blog how this technique works for you. I’d love to hear your success stories.

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The Art of Telling a New Story

[ This is a reprint of my June 2012 article in the Natural Triad Magazine. Please take a few minutes and watch the most amazing video, at the bottom of this post, showing the transformative power of telling yourself a new story of who you are.]

The Art of Telling a New Story

By: Donna Burick

Our past is a story existing only in our minds. Look, analyze, understand, and forgive. Then, as quickly as possible, chuck it.  – Marianne Williamson

Those who do not have power over the story that dominates their lives, the power to retell it, rethink it, deconstruct it, joke about it, and change it as times change, truly are powerless, because they cannot think new thoughts. —Salman Rushdie

If you keep telling the same sad small story, you will keep living the same sad small life. —Jean Houston

Many people don’t realize the extent to which stories influence our behavior and even shape our culture. Think about how Bible stories teach the fundamentals of religion and rules of conduct. Think of the fables and parables that molded your values. Think of how stories about your national, cultural or family history have shaped your attitudes about yourself and others. —Lawrence Shapiro, in How to Raise a Child with a High EQ: A Parents’ Guide to Emotional Intelligence

Imagine yourself as an old peasant, walking down the road with a very heavy bag slung over your shoulder. As you go down the dusty road this bag causes you to stoop over as you perch it on your back. Although this bag is heavy and awkward you cling to it because it contains all your life stories. The thought of leaving it behind is terrifying. What if you come to a point in the road and you need to make a choice? How would you navigate it without pulling out an old story? What if you are traveling alongside a partner? Could you interact with them without the aid of these heavy memories as your guide?

Not only can you navigate your life more easily without clinging to this old bag of tales but the only way to go through life with ease is to let it go. However, you need to replace it with something else – nature abhors a vacuum. Therefore, it is time you learn the art of telling new stories.

The first step in learning to tell a new story is to realize that the stories you’ve carried for so long as “Truth” are not. They are memories, stories you’ve told yourself & others and as such they are altered each time you recall or retell them. This is a natural process that the mind goes through every time we pull things from one time point into another time point. The act of placing it in the present now alters it. As Dr. Nate Kornell explains in Psychology Today:

“Police have to be very careful when questioning witnesses. They basically treat a witness’s memory like a crime scene: once you go over it a single time, it’s irreversibly disturbed. For example, asking a biased question, even unintentionally, can make a witness tell their story a little differently. Doing so doesn’t just change the story; it changes the witness’s memory, permanently and irreversibly. And this isn’t just true of witnesses. The more we tell stories, the more our memories change.”

Let this thought really marinate with you. What possibilities open up if the very things we look to as life shaping events can be viewed as inaccurate? Well, if they are not empowering, life affirming stories then you are free to discard them as fiction. And if you are dealing with fiction why not write your own?

If you were given the opportunity to re-write your childhood or your divorce how would you reframe it? Can you write a funny or affirming account of these life events? Play at this game for a while and see what the effects are on your psyche.

For example, if you grew up in a poor family who struggled with the burden of having not enough of anything, revisit your childhood through the eyes of a princess growing up in an opulent castle surrounded by many beautiful things. Then shift into today and see how this new story affects your feelings toward money.

Or perhaps you are carrying many scars from a bitter divorce. What if you closed you eyes and saw yourself sitting with your ex-partner at an outdoor café and heard your voice say, “Thanks for the many wonderful memories. We had some really good times but I now release us both to go forth and see what other wonderful adventures await us as we interact with new partners.” And then hear them say, “You are so right. I really appreciate the time we spent together. I bless you and release you to create a new and wonderful leg of your life journey.”

By re-scripting your last scene you rewire your emotional state. This is so important because we create what is in our present experience from the vantage point of our emotions. For example, on days you wake up excited everything seems to flow but on the days you wake up frustrated then everything and everyone annoys you. Your outer world has not dramatically changed, only your inner interpretation of the events or story has shifted.

You may have resistance to this exercise because you believe you have proof that these bad memories occurred. However, this exercise is not asking you to not trust yourself. The purpose of re-writing your stories is to allow in the possibilities of personal growth by removing the painful aspects of your stories so their lessons can shine through. But what if you bump up against resistance or can’t seem to re-write these events? Reach out and ask for help. There are many professional techniques that can disengage the painful active memories in your life.

So in the spirit of summer, unleash your inner child and play with this idea. Recreate your memories as fairy tales or maybe sci-fi thrillers with you having all kinds of cool super powers. Your reality is all within your control. Since you experience your past in the now, by changing your past you shift your present and redirect the course of your future. These new positive thoughts magnetize your vibrations to bring in other good thoughts and outcomes, thus creating a snowball effect of better and better stories that will play out in your future.

Please watch this amazing video and see the transformative power of telling yourself a new story:

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What I Appreciate Most About Losing the Vote on Amendment One


On Tuesday, May 8th, Amendment One passed in NC. I voted against Amendment One, but my greatest concern is not that it passed, but how my son has reacted to its passing. By losing the vote on Amendment One I have been given the gift of being able to teach my children tolerance and respect.

Einstein said you can’t solve a problem with the same mindset that created it. Therefore, I believe that the way to approach the passing of this amendment is with great appreciation. Why? Because that is the only way to create the space needed for a new possibility to emerge. If we are against people who are against us, then how are we any different from them? We are the same; and it is from this acknowledgement that we are one that compassion and appreciation can blossom. If I am hurting another then I am hurting myself.

So, this is how I’ve approached the passing of Amendment One. I have made a list of all this positive things that this bill has created that were not there before it’s conception. Here’s my list:

  1. I have witnessed very strong & broad coalitions of people that spans age, race & religious beliefs all united together in their support of equal rights for all.
  2. This bill has brought the topic of equal rights to our everyday conversations these past few months and so the vibration around change has been accelerated.
  3. But most importantly this bill has given me a platform to teach my children the most significant lesson of all; if you want others to appreciate and accept you then you must appreciate and accept them – especially if they are very different than you.

My son feels passionate about equal rights for all and he was very anti-Amendment One. He has spent hours on Facebook in heated exchanges with people who have differing views. But it is my belief that what you resist persists, so this is how I responded to my son when he asked me why I was not raging about the passing of Amendment One:

“I think it is great that this issue has gotten so much attention. This vote has really activated the energy of discussion around equal rights. I think that even though I do not agree with those who supported this Amendment, I must respect their views if I expect them to respect mine.  I believe that asking the majority to vote on minority issues is not the most effective way to create change, so I am imagining a newer outcome; one in which the Federal Government steps in and extends rights to all citizens equally.”

I responded this way because I believe in order for circumstances to change there is a two-step process that must happen. First, I must appreciate what is because I can not create something positive with negative energy. Secondly, I must vividly imagine my desired outcome as if it has already happened, trusting that the events leading to that outcome will fall into place. Now, you may think this is all new age fluff, but this morning the top news story is that President Obama came out in support of gay marriage! Coincidence? I think not!

So join me in my vision of our country being a place where all people have the equality, love, respect and appreciation they deserve. Whenever you are reminded about the lack of any of these things, take a moment to imagine it differently and soon enough together we will make it so!

Please pass this post along to others so our foundation of support for this new, better feeling place can manifest more quickly.



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Are Your Positive Thoughts Making You Feel Bad?

[This is a reprint of my article in the May 2012 Natural Triad magazine.]

Are Your Positive Thoughts Making You Feel Bad?

By: Donna Burick

One must marry one’s feelings to one’s beliefs and ideas. That is probably the only way to achieve a measure of harmony in one’s life. Napoleon Hill

Just as your car runs more smoothly and requires less energy to go faster and farther when the wheels are in perfect alignment, you perform better when your thoughts, feelings, emotions, goals, and values are in balance. Brian Tracy

Our minds are like a vast universe fueled by the dark matter that are our thoughts. They are tricky, sticky, funny, uplifting, inspirational, devastating and crippling. We give our thoughts too much credit. We believe they are our guides but in reality, our feelings are our true guides.

How We “Head” Into Trouble

Anytime we are led by our head we are “headed” for trouble. You see it is our ideas & beliefs that create our problems. You know that on some level – your gut level. Let me explain.  Our thoughts are so tricky that even the “good” ones like, “I want to accomplish something important in my life time” or “I want to discover my life purpose” can be very self-destructive. I would even say they can be as damaging, if not more, than the ones we acknowledge are damaging like “I’m so stupid” or “I can’t believe I did it again”. The way you know these are the same is by the way you feel.

Your feelings are your true guidance system. If thoughts are making you feel “bad” in any way then they are damaging. Don’t be fooled by their false positiveness like those referenced above. It doesn’t matter what the thought is, just how it makes you feel. So, if the thought that you want to do something important in your lifetime excites & motives you then it’s a good thought. However, I’ve seen that very thought paralyze and degrade otherwise bright, talented people. Same thought two different feelings.

My Personal Challenge

Here is an example from my own life. My youngest son has developed a new habit of leaving his shirt on his bathroom floor every morning. He is a teenager so he’s very tired in the morning and after his shower he just can’t seem to remember to pick it up when he leaves the bathroom.

This new habit of his was very stressful for me. I was annoyed that every week there would be 5 or 6 “invisible” shirts on the floor. I assumed that as they built up they would be more noticeable or maybe perhaps when he went in the bathroom in the afternoon or evening then he might notice them then and pick them up. Sadly, no. None of these things took place. They seemed reasonable assumptions on my part but they are apparently utterly foreign to my beloved offspring.

As this trend continued and I made repeated attempts at correcting this behavior to no avail, my anger & frustration grew.  This small issue was growing and consuming my energy and attention. Every time I walked past his bathroom and saw another infraction, I had a negative emotional reaction. What irked me most of all is my son’s unwillingness to understand how monumental this issue really was. To my utter amazement, to him this was just no big deal. Which of course set me off on another tirade all by itself.

My Ah-Ha Moment

I was talking about this struggle I was having (and it is important to note only I was having it – the only struggle my son was having was with me & my ever increasing reactions) and a close friend of mine said to me, “Maybe that’s just his personality. Perhaps you should just let it go and not make such a big deal about it.” I just stood there with my mouth open. I was stunned. If it had been a movie there would have been a quelling of music in the background. I started laughing. She of course was right. I had become a prisoner of my thoughts. Thoughts I was sure were positive, good & right but were making me feel bad. I believed that I was helping my son by training him to not leave his clothes in the bathroom. I did the natural thing and had played it all the way out, reassuring myself that I was saving him from eminent disaster in later life by keeping him from divorce because he was totally incapable of picking up his dirty clothes off the floor. He’s only 14. Perhaps he might just grow out of it – even without my “help”.

I got so wrapped up in my thoughts I forgot to use my guidance system to check in with myself. My feelings of anger & irritation were my flags that something was off, yet I overrode them by reassuring myself that I was right. But I heeded the old adage, “You can be right or happy, chose one.” I changed course and went with happy.

Feelings of worth can flourish only in an atmosphere where individual differences are appreciated, mistakes are tolerated, communication is open, and rules are flexible – the kind of atmosphere that is found in a nurturing family. Virginia Satir

Change Your Mind & Everything Changes

His clothes still adorn the bathroom floor and I still walk past and shake my head, but now I do it with a little smile. Nothing has changed except the way I think about the situation. My new mantra is “Isn’t he so cute.” I now focus my thoughts on the things I adore about my son and I notice I am getting more of those things from him instead of the resistance and struggle brought out by my last stance.

The Universe is made up of wonderful checks and balances and your Mind/Body connection is one of those miracles. Our lives have become full of distractions & disconnects. But the more you can open that channel the more grounded and magical your daily life can become.

The first step is to consciously begin tying the two together. When you are feeling discomfort in your body ask yourself, “What is the thought I was just thinking?” In turn, as you listen to your mind chatter, pause for a moment, drop into your body and ask yourself, “How does this make me feel?” These exercises will help unblock your Mind/Body connection.

Be Wary of the Serpent in Designer Clothing

Overtly negative thoughts are easy to spot, but be on the lookout for the ones that seem positive but elicit “bad” feelings. It is very easy to ignore the guidance of these feelings and overwrite them with the intellectual idea that our Mind knows best. This is where the insidiously tricky, stickiness of our thoughts get us. It’s like having the President fire the Congress and the Supreme Court and appoint himself to be his own set of checks & balances. We would be all up in arms if that happened; yet we let our thoughts convince us that they know what’s best. If you listen very closely you might even catch the slight hissing sound that rolls off the serpent’s tongue when you hear that inner voice whisper, “Trust me, you are in the right.”

You Already Have the Answer

So for those of you who are struggling with the idea that you want to find your life purpose and/or want to accomplish something important here’s your answer. You are already fulfilling your life’s purpose every time you laugh, or connect with someone or love or feel good. Just as you are already accomplishing something important just by adding your unique imprint on the Universe.

Your purpose is to be in love with you. There is no greater gift you can give to the world because only you can give it. That’s why it is also your biggest, most important accomplishment. Your uniqueness is the accomplishment – it is an accomplishment of being not doing. So be the most wonderful version of yourself possible and feel your emotional guidance system give your new way of thinking a standing ovation.

Here is a very interesting video from Mooji discussing this topic:

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The Power of Signs

hawkI am a big believer in signs. Whenever I have something on my mind or I need to make a decision, I know there will be signs to help me. But the trick is knowing what to look for and then knowing what to do once you find them.

The thing about signs is they can come from anywhere. They can be small and subtle or very dramatic! It can be as simple as a song on the radio, a comment from a friend or an event that you witness.

Recently I was having an interaction with my 14 year old son. I wanted him to use his time over the long MLK weekend one way and he had a totally different agenda. He had some homework that was due on Tuesday and I wanted him to get it done early on and then have the rest of the weekend free. He wanted to plan out his whole time, decide how much time he needed to do the assignments and then work them in during blocks of time when there was no football on TV and/or no other friends to hang out with.

Needless to say, our different ideas about how he should spend his time created some very charged interactions. So early on in the weekend I was thinking about our relationship and wondering if my approach of wanting to micro-manage him was in fact the correct choice. It made me feel better but was it really the correct thing for him?

So I put it out to the Universe to help me understand which way to go with this situation and that I needed a sign to give me clarity. Not too long after that I did what I usally do when I need clarity and went for a walk. As I was walking through some wooded areas in my neighborhood I spotted a hawk at the top of a very tall tree. I noticed the hawk and went on, thinking nothing about it.

About 30 minutes later I looked up from my desk and saw that the hawk was right outside my back door, perched on my deck railing. There sat this big, beautiful bird right outside my window just looking at me. Once it had my attention it jumped down to the ground and allowed me to get within a few feet from it and then it soared away. It didn’t even hardly flap its powerful wings. It just glided away almost effortlessly.

Well, I was pretty sure that was the sign I’d asked for since I have never in my life seen a hawk up close and personal. And of course it did come right up to my back door just so I wouldn’t miss that the sign was meant for me.

So the question became, now what? What does this all mean for my dilemma? Well, the first thing I did was go to my signs book and look up the meaning of a hawk. Hawks are messengers, symbolizing the ability to take a big picture view. So, I had to ask myself, I am really serving us both with my decision to micro-manage my son’s time? If I take a big picture view what would that look like in this situation? If I step back and allow him the freedom to manage his own time, what’s the worst that could happen?

This self-reflection helped me take a different, more empowering tact for both of us. I gave him the list of what needed to be accomplished, the deadline it all had to be done by and the consequences of not meeting the deadline. Beyond that I told him he had complete control over how he spent his time and that I trusted in his success.

He rose to the occasion and had everything completed with 2 hours to spare. He worked out what he needed to do and what he wanted to do and figured out how to balance the two. My new stance took the pressure off me because I was using my mental energy to keep him on task and then when we were together I was directing his activities instead of enjoying his company.

Thanks to my hawk friend I know we both learned some valuable lessons. My son learned that I am able to trust him to be responsible and I learned that I need to be watchful for more opportunities that allow him to spread his wings and soar.

So look for signs in your life. They are there to help you find your way. The Universe is always lining everything up in your favor, you just need to be open to the messages.


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Your Wish is Your Command: How to Uncork the Genie in the Bottle

If a Genie suddenly appeared and asked you, “What is it that you really want?” would you be able to answer? Really answer, not just with the list of things you always have at the ready – bigger house, new car, more money, etc. etc. – but the feelings and state of mind that you think these things will bring you if you somehow could possess them.

Maybe you do have a clear vision of what you really want; like a chronic pain you want to release. Or perhaps when faced with that question you only have a vague sense that there is something you want, but you just can’t bring it into clear focus.

What if that Genie really exists and it lives in your energy field that is the “Higher You”? Wouldn’t you love to be able to communicate with it? Well, the answers you seek are closer than you think.

Here is a fun way to “channel” your inner guidance:

  1. Set aside 30-60 minutes of quiet time. Bring a notebook and a pen.
  2. Write on the top of the paper your question. For example, “What is it I really want at this time in my life?”
  3. Close your eyes and go inward for a few minutes. When you feel ready open your eyes and begin writing. If nothing comes flowing out immediately then begin writing by rephrasing the question. For example, “I want at this point in my life…”
  4. Just write whatever comes – do not edit. Also know that it will feel made up at first – you are not “faking” it – that’s just how it feels until you move into place of more trust. Consider the information “imagined” instead of “faked” – it’s much more playful that way!
  5. Keep asking additional questions that stem from the first one. Questions like, “What’s my first step in making that happen” or “Why do I want that right now” or “Who do I need to ask for help with this”.
  6. Go until you run out of steam and then look over what you’ve written.

This exercise is a great way to tap into the guidance that is always with you. That’s what’s so great about Energy Therapy – it allows us to get guidance from your “Higher Self” so you are able to move forward.

As Summer becomes Fall and the energy shifts, it is time to re-focus on your questions. And as always I am here, ready to help you ask, answer and manifest your heart’s desire.

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What’s Your Dream?

There’s an old Nick Nolte movie in which a homeless man goes around asking people “What’s your dream?” Finding your life’s passion is sometimes harder than it would seem. One way I have my clients assess passion level is by the way tasks and ideas make them feel.

Does thinking about taking on a new career path fill you with energy or dread? Do you feel better or worse after spending the weekend with that new person in your life??

Listening to your own body is the quickest way to tap into your intuition. Your senses are full of information that is reliable – you just need to know what you’re listening for and make sure it’s coming from the right place. Often the voice in our head is not our own and the things that seem to be draining us are not even real.

I came across this great blog called Life in Pencil. Anne, one of the blog’s writer’s, wrote an excellent post about this topic. It’s called “Where’s Your Energy?

Please let me know what some of your experiences are with making decisions and finding your passion.

I look forward to hearing about your journey.




Here’s a great video by Dr. Wayne Dyer about finding your passion:



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How to Find Your Passion for Anything

How to Find Your Passion

100 Useful Web Tools to Help You Find Your Passion, Calling or Career

How to Find Your Passion (And What You Should be Blogging About)

55 Seconds to…Finding Your Passion

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Be Kind: Wisdom From A Child

I had a very nice interaction with a bank customer service representative yesterday. She really went out of her way to help me solve a problem I was having and I walked away really feeling taken care of. So because of that I was focused on kindness and ways we can be kind to one another and I came across this video.

It’s a really cute video from this little girl giving advice about being kind. I thought you might like it. Please leave a comment and let me know what you think.

Kindness can not be overrated. The kinder you are to others the more you blossom. It’s as essential as rain is to a flower.


Here’s the video – enjoy!




Here are some other articles on kindness from the web:

USA Today’s Kindness Stories

Kindness Happens

A Week of Kindness Blog

One Million Moments of Kindness

Generate Kindness

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How to Approach Your Work/Life Situations with B.A.L.A.N.C.E.

Your work/life situation is totally unique but one thing that’s universal is the fact that they often get out of balance. Here is a simple 7 step B.A.L.A.N.C.E. plan for gaining the work/life balance you’re looking for.

1. B – Begin. By deciding to self reflect and observe your life you open up the possibilities for change.

2. A – Asses where you are right now. Really look at where your time and energy goes and asses the priorities you have instituted. Make a note of which actions and priorities make you feel better and which make you feel worse. Also, note which ones are missing.

3. L- Love what is. Many people can not move forward because they are too stuck in judging their situation. They spend all their energy on struggling with it instead of accepting where they are right now and channeling their energy into making new choices.

4. A – Activate new patterns. Once you’ve looked over your activities and priorities and have stopped resisting where you are right now then you have the perfect opportunity to start some new patterns. Maybe you now have a clear idea what you want to say no to. Maybe you are ready to substitute a good feeling activity for one that has been draining you.

5. N – Notice your thoughts. Much of what throws us off balance is mental. Stress is like mud wrestling – there is no way to participate in it and come out clean. Negative thought patterns like worry, overwhelm, anxiety and judgments drain you of the peace and balance you are looking for. These negative thoughts are like stacks of junk mail that build up until they spill over and cover up the good thoughts that make us feel light, happy, and rejuvenated.

6. C – Course correct. As you begin new activities and new thought patterns you will naturally get “off course”. There are only two things you need to do to solve this: fix upon a destination and gently course correct as you go along. Use your emotions as guides to tell you when you are beginning to get off course and then gently correct until you are back into a more positive feeling place.

7. E – Enjoy. You’ve been told a thousand times that life is a journey, not a destination so just enjoy yourself along the way. Know you are going to get off course and that life will bring you unforeseeable detours, but make a conscious choice to enjoy the scenery along the way and then even the time you spend “lost” will be pleasurable.

Your work/life balancing act is unique to your situation. If you would like to create a specialized plan that incorporates a holistic approach please consider getting the assistance of a Whole Life Coach to speed up your progress.

Here are some other articles on this general topic you might like:

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  • Whole Life Coaching – Margie Gordillo – Something in you wants to step up bigger. Whatever the leap is the only fall is in the choice not to climb.
  • Life Coaching For Your Whole Life — My Whole Life – Alignment : Live your life with integrity; honor your purpose, values, and beliefs. Balance : Create personalized strategies to balance your life and focus on what you define as important. Clarity :  Define success on your own terms.
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Secret Footage from The Secret

Cool Video Footage Found on the Cutting Room Floor of The Secret

Here is some video footage that was cut from the hit movie, The Secret. This footage showcases the teachings of Abraham-Hicks. It’s good teaching about the vibrational nature of our universe.

More on the The Law of Attraction:

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The One Big Secret to Business Success they Don’t Teach in the MBA Program

What’s the one big secret to your business success? Your level of personal happiness.

As an entrepreneur I know that my business is a direct reflection of where I am at any given moment. And as a Holistic life Coach ~ Energy Therapist I know that everything in our experience is vibrational.

We are one holistic energy system. You can not be miserable with your personal life and have a wildly thriving successful business. It is just not possible.

As an example try this exercise. Focus on your left foot. Now pretend that there is a pain in your left foot. Really feel it. Then bring your focus to your right hand. Wave your hand around; have a very happy hand.

Did you notice what happened? You just proved to yourself that the pain in your foot and the happiness in your hand can not occupy the same space. Just as light and dark can not occupy the same space.

We are a culture of pieces and parts. Everyone focuses on treating the symptoms and calls it a solution. In order to have a real solution you must treat the whole system and get to the root cause of the problem.

As a whole life coach who uses energy therapy, I am able to watch people transform their lives and businesses. Because we were able to access their subconscious blocks that have been unwittingly holding them back from their success, we are then able to replace these outdated tapes with ones in alignment with health and happiness.

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