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The Paradox of Embracing Paradox

dalai-lama-man“How wonderful that we have met with a paradox. Now we have some hope of making progress.” ~ Niels Bohr

“You are doomed to make choices. This is life’s greatest paradox.” ~ Wayne Dyer

The paradox of embracing paradox is it’s counter intuitive. I can hear you say, “Duh. Otherwise there wouldn’t be any paradox. “ Yes I get that but what does it mean for you? Isn’t that a more interesting topic?

Actually I am going to blend the two topics together to create clarity from this confusion. And I’m going to use limits to show how you can be free – that’s where the paradoxical thinking comes in.

You Can’t See What You Don’t Look For

“Every man takes the limits of his own field of vision for the limits of the world.” ~ Arthur Schopenhauer

Imagine Shakespeare was correct and all the world is indeed a stage and you are merely a player. Thus your life is actually playing out in 2 different dimensions – the one you see as your life and the background you don’t see. Much like when you watch a movie you see the action but you don’t see the sets, cameramen, microphones, etc. that are all “off stage”.

So here’s the big idea of this article:

The things you struggle against in your life are put there by the workers “off stage” to help you the most. By embracing this paradox you transmute what you think limits you into what sets you free.

So let’s take two definite aspects of your life that you see as limitations and I’ll pull back the curtain so you can peek backstage to see what’s really going on. For this example we will use time and space.

Embracing Limits Transforms Them into Springboards

“Once we accept our limits, we go beyond them.” ~ Albert Einstein

Time and space are partners in your freedom – they seem like limitations but are actually the only way you can you can achieve limitlessness.

Take this moment in your life – this exact time and space you are in, as you are reading these words pause for a minute and think of the top 5 things that you are unhappy with in your life. Fill them in the list below.












So look over this list. How many of them are things that happened in the past? How many are things you worry about happening in the future? Most importantly, how many of these things on this list are happening right now – this very instant in time in your exact space. Hint: If the answer is zero then all these things belong either to the past or the future.

Accepting What Is Unlocks the Door of Change

“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” ~ Carl Rogers

We have a tendency to create unhappiness in our right now by dragging forward our past hurts or pulling in our fears about our future. So that’s how time and space seem to limit us. They both create the illusion of limiting the manifestation of what we want so we resist and push against them. How many times have you said, there’s never enough time, time has slipped away from me, or I don’t have time. Or maybe you’ve said, I wish I made different choices so I could be somewhere else right now, or I don’t like where I am, or why doesn’t my life look like I want it to?

It feels like we have so many dreams; the mountain house, the exotic vacation to a luxury spa on a tropical island, that red convertible, a better house, job, family or even a life lived in a different fashion, yet because of the restrictions of time and space we feel constrained from attaining what we really want.

When the truth is time and space give you the ultimate freedom to experience happiness in a perpetual NOW.

Big Paradox Alert

“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” ~ Wayne Dyer

Time and space exist so you can’t get everything you want all at once. What good would that be? I have a friend who says, “You can’t have everything, where would you put it?” And literally that’s true. If your wishes manifested the instant you had them you’d be so crowded you’d be trapped. Think hoarder on steroids.

Their purpose is to give us the opportunity to really enjoy the experience we are having to its fullest. So by embracing time and space you are liberating yourself to fully enjoy right now, which is true freedom.

We spend lots of time acting like our life is not IT and that one day we will arrive at IT and then things will get good. But that’s the exact thinking that is creating your unhappiness. Get happy by getting that THIS IS IT. Loving what is right now opens up the space to actually create more of what you want. Struggling against THIS IS IT imprisons your creativity so only through embracing THIS AS IT can you experience the freedom creativity offers.

Now is the Only Place You Can Experience Happiness

“One cannot collect all the beautiful shells on the beach.” ~Anne Morrow Lindbergh

Literally you cannot collect all the shells on the beach and you wouldn’t want to. What good would the beach be if it was stripped clean of its gifts? The purpose of the beach is to enjoy being there while you are there. Don’t miss its magic by bemoaning the fact that you can’t collect all the shells or by thinking about how little time you have there. This thinking takes you away from the happiness that is always present in your present.

Paradoxes are easy to miss because we are used to looking at the reality we see instead of looking for the reality that’s available to us. For example, you think your life has external constraints when those constraints are wholly created by your point of view. Once you change perspectives then you open up to new possibilities that were not available to you before. So life’s paradox is you holding all the power while thinking your life is limited.

Once you shift views then you peek past the paradox and catch sight of the magical mysteries that are available for you. Come with me down this enchanted rabbit hole – don’t worry I’ll hold your hand – and experience the freedom that awaits you.



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VFT: The Secret Sauce of Manifesting

“Don’t let anything stand in the way of you claiming and manifesting the life that you choose rather than the life you have by default.” ~ Joy Page

“By believing passionately in something that still does not exist, we create it. The non-existent is whatever we have not sufficiently desired.” ~ Nikos Kazantzakis

A few years ago the movie The Secret was all the rage. It was a wonderfully done movie about manifesting your heart’s desires. I think the movie is visually stunning and it does a very good job of giving an overview to the manifesting process, but it does leave out some essentials. So I’m going to let you in on the secrets behind The Secret.

Manifesting is like baking a delicate soufflé; it has very few ingredients but they need to be handled properly or you get a flat mess.

As The Secret tells you the 3 main ingredients to manifesting are to visualize what you want, hold that vision and then expect it to show up. Well, I’ve broken them down a little deeper for you to give you the ingredients in the secret sauce. My three step process is to visualize, feel and trust; but with a twist!

Secret # 1: Visualization

All the literature talks about visualizing what you want in order to manifest it, right? Well if that was all there was to it you’d have everything you ever wanted. So I’m going to ask you, “How’s it going for you?” Probably not good if you’re like most people. That’s because you don’t know the inside secret to successfully visualizing your desires. Here it is:

You must visualize from your desire not toward your desire.

This little tweak makes a 100% difference! Here’s how it works. For example, maybe you want a new car. Visualizing toward it would look like you seeing yourself in the car of your dreams. But if you notice, there is a disconnect there. By you seeing yourself doing something you are the observer, not the actor. So to visualize from your desire means to visualize from a vantage point of inside the action. So back to the new car scenario, you would pick a visual that would signify that you have the car of your dreams. Maybe choose a scene where you are pulling up in front of your home in the car and your neighbor notices you and says, “Hey, is that your new car?” and you reply, “It sure is, I just got it.” Encapsulate this scene in your mind and play it over and over again. From this vantage point you are inside the action, not merely a bystander.

Secret #2: Feel It

The next essential step is to feel what you would feel as if it has happened. So in the above scenario, when you run that scene in your mind then also feel the feelings that accompany it. Feel how happy you are driving the car into your driveway. Feel the pride when you show it to your neighbor. Feel the leather seat and smell the new car smell. Immerse yourself in a sensory bath of feelings. Your amplitude of feelings is in direct correlation to how quickly and clearly your manifestation will come into being. Thoughts are suggestions, but your feelings are the commands that your subconscious mind responds to.

Secret #3: Trust It

Once you have set up your scene that represents an action that takes place after your manifestation has come to pass, and overlaid it with your intense feelings, then you must act as if it is so. This layer of trust is needed to seal the deal. This is the hardest step because you must ignore your senses and rely on your imagined state. We are all very ingrained to gauge reality by our senses. If we can’t see, feel or touch something then it must not be there, right? Well, remember your subconscious does not know if you are actually seeing something or imagining it. It is shrouded from your external senses and can only process the information you feed it. So if you set up your visualization, feel your feelings and then run around noticing how you don’t have that car yet, your subconscious can’t help but get derailed. Ignore what is and trust what must be around the corner. By keeping your sights on what you want, instead of what you have, you will move from what you have to what you want. It’s like the old adage in Driver’s Ed – the car will go where you are looking, which is why we can’t fixate on anything while driving.

This VFT technique is the most effective way to use your manifestation powers. Pick something small and make these important changes and measure your results. Drop me an email or post on my blog how this technique works for you. I’d love to hear your success stories.

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Are You Magnetizing Your Fears?

“Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything – all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure – these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important.” ~ Steve Jobs

“The components of anxiety, stress, fear, and anger do not exist independently of you in the world. They simply do not exist in the physical world, even though we talk about them as if they do.” ~ Wayne Dyer

How much of your life is spent in fear? Do a quick scan – every time you are anxious about the future, get upset about something that might happen, expect the other shoe to drop, or ruminate about past events then you are spending lots of your precious time in fear. So what can you do to change this vicious spiral?

Close your eyes and visualize yourself holding two magnets; one is labeled FEAR and the other is labeled HAPPINESS.  The magnets turn on when you look at them.  So the more you look at the FEAR magnet the more it pulls what you don’t want into your life. So, if all you have to do is to avert your eyes from the FEAR magnet and lock onto the HAPPINESS magnet then why don’t we? Here’s the big secret:

Fear has a hypnotic effect on us because it is so primal!

Fear has served us well throughout our ancestry. We needed to know when to run and when it was safe to put our kids down for the night. Over the centuries we have entwined fear and intuition and believe they are connected.  They are easy to tell apart – fear screams and intuition whispers. But fear’s primal nature is so hypnotic because of the delicious sense of adrenaline it provides.

Underneath all fear is an undercurrent of adrenaline that keeps us on the hook. This combo makes fear feel alive and exciting in our lives, even though the subject matter is not what we want to bring in to our life.

This adrenaline makes our fears seem alive in our lives even before the actual event comes to pass. It is this quick flash of immediate adrenaline that keeps our eyes locked on our FEAR magnet.

Case Study

I have a client who was magnetizing her fears with her boyfriend. She would have fear dreams where he would cheat on her. Then she would tell him about the dreams and get overly anxious when he was friendly to other women and female co-workers. She was feeding her fears and creating what she didn’t want by dousing him in her anxieties. Her boyfriend was totally committed to her, and wanted them to move in together. So in reality he was not pulling away in any manner, but her fear prevented her from moving forward.

Fears are False Illusions Appearing Real so her reality was very positive with this man; she was just unable to see it because she was mesmerized by what she didn’t want. Her fear had a stronger emotional hold on her than her happiness.

Looking at our HAPPINESS magnet just doesn’t feel as immediately exciting, so it doesn’t hold our attention as well. We tend to rein in our excitement until we are sure a good event will come to pass. Haven’t you ever heard the saying, “Don’t count your chickens before they hatch?” The trick to turning this cycle around is to move the powerful, good feelings linked to your HAPPINESS magnet into your today, even before the event has happened.

It will take some reprogramming, but start by revving up your imagination so you feel the rush of good feelings surrounding an event long before it happens. This is crucial because we will gravitate to the strongest feeling, regardless if it is good or bad. That’s the magnetic aspect.

So in this example, instead of being so attracted to the fear scenario, my client needs to shift her attention and feelings to a happiness scenario. So, it would look like this as an option:

Instead of worrying about things that might go bad with her boyfriend, she could focus on the all the things that she is grateful for about him and their relationship. But to make this very present in her day she must write down 3 things she’s grateful for every day. And then she must feel the gratitude. She can keep this going by looking at her list 3-4 times a day.

This re-patterning might take some time before it feels natural, but it is essential to making your shift.

Replace your deep fried platter of fear with an even better dish – the delicious anticipation of happiness. You just need to re-train your brain to feel your good emotions prior to the events; this will override the adrenaline addiction of fear. Since practice makes it easier, look for all the opportunities your day brings you to practice this technique.

[This article is a reprint of my September 2012 Living Well column in Natural Triad.]

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The Days Are Long But The Years Are Short

IMG_2501As my son crossed the stage to receive his diploma I was reminded of this very true adage about parenting: some of the days really can be long but all of the years are most certainly short!

It is so important to keep this perspective. It’s so easy to slip into the frustrations of today or to overlook the gift each year of childhood brings.

Remember when they were learning to walk? Or the first time they experienced snow? Remember potty training? Or that art project they so proudly brought home for Mother’s Day? How about that year of learning to drive? That was a tricky time.

But how did this day arrive so quickly – the day my son is done with high school, and a few short weeks away from leaving for college?

We have traveled together from a baby, to a boy, to a teenager and now he’s a man. I wouldn’t trade one minute of the journey for anything – the good, the bad and the ugly are all precious to me because it has brought us here, together.

Here is a great video telling one woman’s discovery of this principle. What’s your perspective? Does this resonate with you?

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The Art of Telling a New Story

[ This is a reprint of my June 2012 article in the Natural Triad Magazine. Please take a few minutes and watch the most amazing video, at the bottom of this post, showing the transformative power of telling yourself a new story of who you are.]

The Art of Telling a New Story

By: Donna Burick

Our past is a story existing only in our minds. Look, analyze, understand, and forgive. Then, as quickly as possible, chuck it.  – Marianne Williamson

Those who do not have power over the story that dominates their lives, the power to retell it, rethink it, deconstruct it, joke about it, and change it as times change, truly are powerless, because they cannot think new thoughts. —Salman Rushdie

If you keep telling the same sad small story, you will keep living the same sad small life. —Jean Houston

Many people don’t realize the extent to which stories influence our behavior and even shape our culture. Think about how Bible stories teach the fundamentals of religion and rules of conduct. Think of the fables and parables that molded your values. Think of how stories about your national, cultural or family history have shaped your attitudes about yourself and others. —Lawrence Shapiro, in How to Raise a Child with a High EQ: A Parents’ Guide to Emotional Intelligence

Imagine yourself as an old peasant, walking down the road with a very heavy bag slung over your shoulder. As you go down the dusty road this bag causes you to stoop over as you perch it on your back. Although this bag is heavy and awkward you cling to it because it contains all your life stories. The thought of leaving it behind is terrifying. What if you come to a point in the road and you need to make a choice? How would you navigate it without pulling out an old story? What if you are traveling alongside a partner? Could you interact with them without the aid of these heavy memories as your guide?

Not only can you navigate your life more easily without clinging to this old bag of tales but the only way to go through life with ease is to let it go. However, you need to replace it with something else – nature abhors a vacuum. Therefore, it is time you learn the art of telling new stories.

The first step in learning to tell a new story is to realize that the stories you’ve carried for so long as “Truth” are not. They are memories, stories you’ve told yourself & others and as such they are altered each time you recall or retell them. This is a natural process that the mind goes through every time we pull things from one time point into another time point. The act of placing it in the present now alters it. As Dr. Nate Kornell explains in Psychology Today:

“Police have to be very careful when questioning witnesses. They basically treat a witness’s memory like a crime scene: once you go over it a single time, it’s irreversibly disturbed. For example, asking a biased question, even unintentionally, can make a witness tell their story a little differently. Doing so doesn’t just change the story; it changes the witness’s memory, permanently and irreversibly. And this isn’t just true of witnesses. The more we tell stories, the more our memories change.”

Let this thought really marinate with you. What possibilities open up if the very things we look to as life shaping events can be viewed as inaccurate? Well, if they are not empowering, life affirming stories then you are free to discard them as fiction. And if you are dealing with fiction why not write your own?

If you were given the opportunity to re-write your childhood or your divorce how would you reframe it? Can you write a funny or affirming account of these life events? Play at this game for a while and see what the effects are on your psyche.

For example, if you grew up in a poor family who struggled with the burden of having not enough of anything, revisit your childhood through the eyes of a princess growing up in an opulent castle surrounded by many beautiful things. Then shift into today and see how this new story affects your feelings toward money.

Or perhaps you are carrying many scars from a bitter divorce. What if you closed you eyes and saw yourself sitting with your ex-partner at an outdoor café and heard your voice say, “Thanks for the many wonderful memories. We had some really good times but I now release us both to go forth and see what other wonderful adventures await us as we interact with new partners.” And then hear them say, “You are so right. I really appreciate the time we spent together. I bless you and release you to create a new and wonderful leg of your life journey.”

By re-scripting your last scene you rewire your emotional state. This is so important because we create what is in our present experience from the vantage point of our emotions. For example, on days you wake up excited everything seems to flow but on the days you wake up frustrated then everything and everyone annoys you. Your outer world has not dramatically changed, only your inner interpretation of the events or story has shifted.

You may have resistance to this exercise because you believe you have proof that these bad memories occurred. However, this exercise is not asking you to not trust yourself. The purpose of re-writing your stories is to allow in the possibilities of personal growth by removing the painful aspects of your stories so their lessons can shine through. But what if you bump up against resistance or can’t seem to re-write these events? Reach out and ask for help. There are many professional techniques that can disengage the painful active memories in your life.

So in the spirit of summer, unleash your inner child and play with this idea. Recreate your memories as fairy tales or maybe sci-fi thrillers with you having all kinds of cool super powers. Your reality is all within your control. Since you experience your past in the now, by changing your past you shift your present and redirect the course of your future. These new positive thoughts magnetize your vibrations to bring in other good thoughts and outcomes, thus creating a snowball effect of better and better stories that will play out in your future.

Please watch this amazing video and see the transformative power of telling yourself a new story:

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New Year New You

New Year New You

5 Easy Ways to Make Lasting Change

tn_new year photo 2012With the New Year upon us it is time again to make those resolutions. However, why don’t you do it differently in 2012? Instead of resolutions, just decide on some SHIFTS you’d like to make in your life.

Here is an easy 5 step process for creating SHIFTS that move you toward what you are wanting.

S – Start small. Create baby steps toward you ultimate goal. Smaller bites are easier to chew and with small successes, you are more likely to keep these changes in place. Reward yourself for the actions you take rather than using progress as your barometer.

H – Help is not a bad thing. No one said you need to do it all by yourself for it to count. Seek out a support system, enlist a coach or grab a buddy. Do whatever it takes to keep yourself in alignment with what you want.

I – Intention is a powerful motivator. Uncover the powerful reason why you are making these changes. Keep a daily journal of your “Why’s” to help keep you motivated.

F – Forget your “shoulds”. It should be happening faster, you should be doing it better, etc. If you stumble or stray from your new path, just pick yourself up, dust yourself off and get back on track. No judgment, just keep going forward.

T – Think in terms of what you’d like to add to your life rather than what you’d like to take away. Focusing on your positive outcomes is a much more powerful motivator.

S – Self-Celebrate. The reason you want to make changes is because you want your life to be better. However, enjoy your life as it is today while working forward to a new you. This way the journey is pleasurable and you aren’t just waiting for the destination.

If you’d like some additional information about making new lifestyle changes this year, please see my article in the Natural Triad online magazine, 12 Lifestyle Changes for 2012.

Happy New Year!

Many Blessings,

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Welcome to Our Feast of Love

Recently I was at a wedding reception and one of my 8-year-old nephews decided to give a toast. He saw that the adults were all standing up and saying things so he thought he’d join in. So, he stood right up, paused a minute and said, “Welcome family and friends to our feast of love”.

I thought this was probably the best wedding reception toast I’d ever heard. But aren’t all family gathering supposed to be a feast of love?

As you are busy these next few days either preparing for company or traveling, pause for a moment and connect with the idea that you are sharing in a love feast.  Make this Thanksgiving one filled with gratitude for the love that is so abundant in your life.

Here is a gratitude poem I came across and wanted to share it with you. I’m using it as my mantra this holiday season.

Blessings to you and your loved ones,


Be Thankful
Be thankful that you don’t already have everything you desire,
If you did, what would there be to look forward to?

Be thankful when you don’t know something
For it gives you the opportunity to learn.

Be thankful for the difficult times.
During those times you grow.

Be thankful for your limitations
Because they give you opportunities for improvement.

Be thankful for each new challenge
Because it will build your strength and character.

Be thankful for your mistakes
They will teach you valuable lessons.

Be thankful when you’re tired and weary
Because it means you’ve made a difference.

It is easy to be thankful for the good things.
A life of rich fulfillment comes to those who are
also thankful for the setbacks.

GRATITUDE can turn a negative into a positive.
Find a way to be thankful for your troubles
and they can become your blessings.
~ Author Unknown ~

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Which of These Would You Choose?

I need your help. Autumn is here. In the Chinese Five element System of Healing Autumn is Lung/Large Intestines Energy. This means it is time to let go of grief and take in life fully.

In addition to my private practice, I have been asked to teach classes.

So, I would love your input on which of the following classes appeal to you, which style of class you like and what other topics you would love to see on the list.

Here is a list of topics I am considering:

Overcoming Your Personal Resistance

Ways to overcome those things that pop up in front of you and keep you from doing the things you want to do.

Daily Practices That Boost Your Future Well-Being

Daily things you can do that deposit health, happiness and well-being into your future bank.

Qigong Movements & Seated Meditation

The ancient Chinese modality of Qigong is designed to cultivate your wellness and vitality (Qi – Life Force Energy) through both movement and seated meditations.

Creating & Interpreting Your Vision Board

How to create a vision board that moves you forward, and how to interpret the messages your subconscious is revealing about you through your vision board.

Handling Holiday Stress

How to sail through the holidays with a smile.

What other topics interest you??

Also, would you rather in person classes or tele-seminars?

Are you looking for a 90 minute class, ½ day class or all day class?

Please leave me your feedback in the comments section, or feel free to email me @ donna[at] or call me at 336-540-0088.

Thanks so much for helping out – I really appreciate your time.



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Your Wish is Your Command: How to Uncork the Genie in the Bottle

If a Genie suddenly appeared and asked you, “What is it that you really want?” would you be able to answer? Really answer, not just with the list of things you always have at the ready – bigger house, new car, more money, etc. etc. – but the feelings and state of mind that you think these things will bring you if you somehow could possess them.

Maybe you do have a clear vision of what you really want; like a chronic pain you want to release. Or perhaps when faced with that question you only have a vague sense that there is something you want, but you just can’t bring it into clear focus.

What if that Genie really exists and it lives in your energy field that is the “Higher You”? Wouldn’t you love to be able to communicate with it? Well, the answers you seek are closer than you think.

Here is a fun way to “channel” your inner guidance:

  1. Set aside 30-60 minutes of quiet time. Bring a notebook and a pen.
  2. Write on the top of the paper your question. For example, “What is it I really want at this time in my life?”
  3. Close your eyes and go inward for a few minutes. When you feel ready open your eyes and begin writing. If nothing comes flowing out immediately then begin writing by rephrasing the question. For example, “I want at this point in my life…”
  4. Just write whatever comes – do not edit. Also know that it will feel made up at first – you are not “faking” it – that’s just how it feels until you move into place of more trust. Consider the information “imagined” instead of “faked” – it’s much more playful that way!
  5. Keep asking additional questions that stem from the first one. Questions like, “What’s my first step in making that happen” or “Why do I want that right now” or “Who do I need to ask for help with this”.
  6. Go until you run out of steam and then look over what you’ve written.

This exercise is a great way to tap into the guidance that is always with you. That’s what’s so great about Energy Therapy – it allows us to get guidance from your “Higher Self” so you are able to move forward.

As Summer becomes Fall and the energy shifts, it is time to re-focus on your questions. And as always I am here, ready to help you ask, answer and manifest your heart’s desire.

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A 2.44 Minute Lesson on Compassion Guaranteed to Wow You


“Compassion is not religious business, it is human business, it is not luxury, it is essential for our own peace and mental stability, it is essential for human survival.” Dalai Lama

The most exciting thing about each new day is the anticipation of what unexpected goodies might come your way.

We all get very busy with our lives. Lost in deep thought, wrapped up in our to do lists, in a hurry to get from point A to point B, yet there are so many gifts in every single day that we often overlook in our hustle and bustle.

My friend Beverly Johnston wrote this piece on how one day brought her a great gift on the topic of compassion. She recorded it for our local public radio station, WFDD.

Please take 2.44 minutes and listen to this wonderful story. It will open your heart and perhaps open your eyes to some gift your day has in store for you that you might otherwise have missed.

To listen from the WFDD website go here:

To download and listen on your computer go here:

Please leave me a comment with your reaction – I’m always interested in what you have to say.



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Lose 10 Pounds of Emotional Baggage Fast

Life Coaching with Energy Therapy Breaks Your Past Chains

Would you like to feel 10 pounds lighter? Do you want a quick, easy way to stop carrying around all that past baggage that has built up in your life?

If so then here’s your answer.

By fusing Energy Therapy modalities with Life Coaching techniques a reaction is created that clears away past subconscious programing and baggage so you can move forward with ease.

We are all a product of our past experiences, thoughts and actions. But if you are looking to improve your outcomes then Life Coaching with Energy Therapy is your best bet.

Life Coaching is very different than regular talk therapy because it is focused on where you are and where you want to go rather than on past events. But, what if past events are affecting where you are and where you want to go? That’s why adding Energy Therapy is the answer.

Life Coaching boosted with Energy Therapy modalities can access your subconscious blocks and move aside those things that are holding you back. The real gift is these are things that you can not access in regular conscious therapy or coaching.

So if you’ve ever felt like you’ve hashed and rehashed your past and yet you still have not moved forward to the extent that you’d like then this is your answer.

A good analogy of how your subconscious mind works is the studies done on babies and the visual cliff. Babies who are just crawling are placed on a plexiglass table where one side looks shallow and the other seems to drop off. The parent is on the “deep” side coaxing the baby across.

Psychologists have found out two very important things from this test.

One, that the expressions of the trusted parent directly affects the babies performance. If the parent shows a fear face as the baby starts toward the deep end the baby stops crawling. In like manner, if the parent is smiling and nodding yes, the baby scampers across.

Secondly, psychologists have found that babies who are first crawling do not seem to show an inherent fear of the deep side because they have very little experience with falling. However, babies a few months older, and who have experienced falling, have a much stronger avoidance reaction to the deep end, even when their parent is coaxing them to cross.

This is how your subconscious mind develops. There are negative events that have happened to you that have encoded in your subconscious. These patterns or messages run in your subconscious background in an effort to protect you from harm.

Perhaps they served you when they were formed, but they are no longer the patterns you want running twenty years later. Energy Therapy enables us to go in and turn off those messages and re-encode new messages that are more productive.

So, if you’ve ever felt like that you bump in to an invisible wall when you try to move forward, see what a powerful difference Life Coaching infused with Energy Therapy can do for you.

Here are some of my Life Coaching success stories from other clients. You can also get more information about the power of Energy Therapy at my Life Coaching website.


Here are two videos on the Visual Cliff experiment:


Here is some additonal information for you:

What is BodyTalk?

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What’s Your Dream?

There’s an old Nick Nolte movie in which a homeless man goes around asking people “What’s your dream?” Finding your life’s passion is sometimes harder than it would seem. One way I have my clients assess passion level is by the way tasks and ideas make them feel.

Does thinking about taking on a new career path fill you with energy or dread? Do you feel better or worse after spending the weekend with that new person in your life??

Listening to your own body is the quickest way to tap into your intuition. Your senses are full of information that is reliable – you just need to know what you’re listening for and make sure it’s coming from the right place. Often the voice in our head is not our own and the things that seem to be draining us are not even real.

I came across this great blog called Life in Pencil. Anne, one of the blog’s writer’s, wrote an excellent post about this topic. It’s called “Where’s Your Energy?

Please let me know what some of your experiences are with making decisions and finding your passion.

I look forward to hearing about your journey.




Here’s a great video by Dr. Wayne Dyer about finding your passion:



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100 Useful Web Tools to Help You Find Your Passion, Calling or Career

How to Find Your Passion (And What You Should be Blogging About)

55 Seconds to…Finding Your Passion

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Be Kind: Wisdom From A Child

I had a very nice interaction with a bank customer service representative yesterday. She really went out of her way to help me solve a problem I was having and I walked away really feeling taken care of. So because of that I was focused on kindness and ways we can be kind to one another and I came across this video.

It’s a really cute video from this little girl giving advice about being kind. I thought you might like it. Please leave a comment and let me know what you think.

Kindness can not be overrated. The kinder you are to others the more you blossom. It’s as essential as rain is to a flower.


Here’s the video – enjoy!




Here are some other articles on kindness from the web:

USA Today’s Kindness Stories

Kindness Happens

A Week of Kindness Blog

One Million Moments of Kindness

Generate Kindness

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How to Approach Your Work/Life Situations with B.A.L.A.N.C.E.

Your work/life situation is totally unique but one thing that’s universal is the fact that they often get out of balance. Here is a simple 7 step B.A.L.A.N.C.E. plan for gaining the work/life balance you’re looking for.

1. B – Begin. By deciding to self reflect and observe your life you open up the possibilities for change.

2. A – Asses where you are right now. Really look at where your time and energy goes and asses the priorities you have instituted. Make a note of which actions and priorities make you feel better and which make you feel worse. Also, note which ones are missing.

3. L- Love what is. Many people can not move forward because they are too stuck in judging their situation. They spend all their energy on struggling with it instead of accepting where they are right now and channeling their energy into making new choices.

4. A – Activate new patterns. Once you’ve looked over your activities and priorities and have stopped resisting where you are right now then you have the perfect opportunity to start some new patterns. Maybe you now have a clear idea what you want to say no to. Maybe you are ready to substitute a good feeling activity for one that has been draining you.

5. N – Notice your thoughts. Much of what throws us off balance is mental. Stress is like mud wrestling – there is no way to participate in it and come out clean. Negative thought patterns like worry, overwhelm, anxiety and judgments drain you of the peace and balance you are looking for. These negative thoughts are like stacks of junk mail that build up until they spill over and cover up the good thoughts that make us feel light, happy, and rejuvenated.

6. C – Course correct. As you begin new activities and new thought patterns you will naturally get “off course”. There are only two things you need to do to solve this: fix upon a destination and gently course correct as you go along. Use your emotions as guides to tell you when you are beginning to get off course and then gently correct until you are back into a more positive feeling place.

7. E – Enjoy. You’ve been told a thousand times that life is a journey, not a destination so just enjoy yourself along the way. Know you are going to get off course and that life will bring you unforeseeable detours, but make a conscious choice to enjoy the scenery along the way and then even the time you spend “lost” will be pleasurable.

Your work/life balancing act is unique to your situation. If you would like to create a specialized plan that incorporates a holistic approach please consider getting the assistance of a Whole Life Coach to speed up your progress.

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Secret Footage from The Secret

Cool Video Footage Found on the Cutting Room Floor of The Secret

Here is some video footage that was cut from the hit movie, The Secret. This footage showcases the teachings of Abraham-Hicks. It’s good teaching about the vibrational nature of our universe.

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